Disney 2025

Disney 2025

It had been six years since our last vacation to Walt Disney World. Millie remembers our last Disney trip through pictures and videos (she was only 18 months old) and the boys have never been. Anytime a Disney Parks commercial played on the television, Wells would ask, “Mommy, can we go?” and my answer was always, “Someday, bud.” Once Crosby turned two, I figured it was time to start planning to go back to the most magical place on Earth. That “someday” had come.

After doing some research, I found that a less populated and less expensive month to go to WDW was January, which was perfect for the kids and my school schedule. We had never been to Disney during the holidays so I was thrilled to learn that the parks stayed decorated for the first two weeks of the month. The weather in Orlando at that time would be between 50-70 degrees (which is exponentially better than the 18-36 degrees in Ohio). We chose to leave after the new year. We extended the invitation to our families and decided to tell the children on Christmas morning. I bought Millie a new pair of Minnie Mouse ears and Wells a crossbody bag that I decorated with pins from his favorite Disney movies. I put these gifts and new Disney pajamas at the bottom of a big present sack with a helium, Mickey Mouse balloon inside so that when they opened the bag, the balloon would fly out.

The last gift they opened on Christmas morning was the big sack hiding behind the tree. Millie and Wells loosened the ribbon on top and the Mickey balloon floated out. Millie yelled, “We’re going to Walt Disney World!” Not a question but a matter of fact. We confirmed that yes, we were headed to Disney and not ten minutes later, Wells jumped on the balloon and popped it.

Sixty days before our vacation, I was able to reserve our dining reservations; I took advice from a coworker who’s an avid Disney goer, a friend who’d gone recently, online reviews, and even one of my students. Thirty days before our vacation, I was lucky enough to book a time for Millie to go the Bippity Boppity Boutique (the boutique has become an elusive activity ever since they closed two of their previous three locations). Millie is a princess everyday; she has earned many pageant crowns but I still felt like this was something really special she’d enjoy doing at Disney. I was really grateful there was a time available to reserve.

My Mom and Mawmaw were both joining us on this vacation. When I was just five years old, I went to Disney with my parents and grandmas from both sides. It was important for me to have my kids experience Disney with their grandparents. The kids didn’t know that my Mom and Mawmaw were coming with us until we went to my mom’s house to eat Christmas dinner. My Mom and Mawmaw walked out of the kitchen wearing mouse ears. I asked the kids, “Do you know what this means?” and Millie guessed right away. She asked, “Are they coming too?!” Everyone was so excited.

‘Twas the night before Disney when all through the house…I was frantically packing and making sure everyone had everything packed and ready to go. We were leaving behind a winter blizzard that wasn’t supposed to hit until after we landed in Florida. I checked us in at the Southwest Airlines kiosk while Chris and Mawmaw parked the cars in the extended stay garage. Once we were all together, we made our way through TSA. Mawmaw was stopped because of her hip replacement and the lady wanding her made her spread her legs super far. It was honestly so ridiculous and we griped about it all the way to boarding.

Boarding the plane was easy because my Mom and Mawmaw got on first (handicap privileges) and saved us seats together. *This was before SouthWest had assigned seating options. They chose the seats in the front of the plane so we had plenty of leg room. Millie sat next to the window, Crosby nursed on my lap in the middle seat, and mawmaw was next to me, in the aisle seat. Wells sat by the window next to Gam (my Mom), and Chris sat behind them. Wells did a great job on his first plane ride! I was so relieved when the plane landed in Orlando; everyone there and happy; I just kept thinking, “We made it.”

The gloomy Ohio weather was quickly forgotten when we landed in the sunshine state; the palm trees were glorious. We rode on an air rail to get to our uber and then the uber took us to the Disney All-Star Sports Resort. The kids were excited to walk on the “red carpet” entering the resort while Chris stacked all our luggage on a cart to be taken to our rooms. At check-in, Wells and Crosby received their, “First Time at Disney” pins and my mom got a “Happy Birthday” pin. Her birthday fell during the week of our trip and this pin gave her lots of attention at the park! Wells traded his first Disney pin with one from behind the counter; I knew he would love trading pins for his bag!

While I was dealing with logistics, Mawmaw took the kids to smash pennies. (I lucked out and found a Disney penny collection book at a thrift store before our trip that already had a couple of pennies in it.) Penny smashing became something fun they did together throughout the trip. We were given two rooms in the Mighty Ducks section of the resort (one for us and the kids and one for my mom and mawmaw) that were connected. The kids loved running back and forth from room to room. I’d say they spent more time in my mom’s room than ours!

Buying a Disney trip for 2025 gave us a special offer that allowed us to go to the water park the day of our arrival at no additional cost. We took our bathing suits and sandals out of our suitcases and left for Blizzard Beach. Before we swam, we grabbed lunch from the Lottawatta Lodge; I was very glad they had Impossible burgers! My mom and Millie ate the notorious Mickey pretzel – I officially felt like I was in Disney World watching them smile over eating Mickey’s ears.

The children’s area, Tikes Peak, was themed after Disney’s Frozen and had statues of Elsa, Anna, Olaf, Sven, and even the little snow babies from Frozen Fever. This was Crosby’s first time putting his toes in the sand (he stomped around but wasn’t particularly impressed). It was 72 degrees outside and the water was heated to 80 degrees. While we were in the water, it was comfortable but coming out of the water was chilly. The bigs enjoyed going down different water slides; Wells was nervous about going down the slides at first but after he watched Millie have fun, he tried it and loved it. Chris would help them get on the inner-tube at the top of the slide and I waited for them at the bottom. I cheered every time I saw them round the corner; they were so brave!

My mom joined us in the lazy river as we floated around the park. Millie didn’t want a tube because she wanted to swim so I walked with her and helped balance Crosby. I loved that there were tubes that didn’t have a hole through the middle because Crosby very much enjoyed riding along without getting wet. As we were floating, we were joking and laughing and reminiscing about other vacations we’ve shared. We all cracked up going under the unexpected waterfall (Chris jumped out of his tube and put it over his head). I reached out and grabbed a tropical flower for Mill’s hair that was the same vibrant pink as her bathing suit. As we were all getting out of the lazy river, Wells decided he wanted to go around again and just kept floating upstream! My mom fought the current to catch him and we all laughed.

After our time at the water park, we went back to the resort to change for dinner. While we waited for the Disney bus, Crosby ran all around and kicked and screamed when I had to pick him up to get on the bus. Once we arrived at Disney Springs, we were in awe of the magnificent Christmas tree and the beautiful lights and garland decorations. We had reservations at The Rainforest Cafe but before our assigned time, we walked around the World of Disney store. I couldn’t believe how many people were shopping; we could barely move without bumping into someone. Millie and her American Girl doll, Molly, were dressed like Minnie Mouse so we got some cute pictures with her and all the Minnie merchandise. When it was time for our dinner reservation, we waited in a long line to get our table. Crosby was restless so he ran around the gift shop, hugged a little girl who looked absolutely smitten with him, and sniped a monkey stuffy.

At 9pm, we sat down for dinner at The Rainforest Cafe. Millie thought the animatronic gorillas were creepy but Wells really liked the aquarium we were seated next to. The food was not memorable however, it was free. Mawmaw received her meal after all of us had already finished ours so they ended up comping our dinner, which was completely unexpected. The waiter surprised my mom by bringing out a cupcake for her birthday and we sang happy birthday to her while Wells was asleep in her lap.

It was nearly 11 p.m., when we headed to the parking lot to catch the Disney bus to our resort. I carried a sleeping Crosby and Chris held a sleeping Wells. As we entered the parking lot, we saw the bus we needed to ride was already parked and accepting passengers. Fearing a 45-minute wait for the next bus, I ran through the lot (carrying my almost-thirty-pound baby) to catch the ride back to our resort. We made it, thankfully, but were absolutely exhausted. Both Wells and Millie jumped in bed with my Mom and Maw. I reminded everyone that we had an 8:30am breakfast reservation, so up at 7am and Chris was snoring before I turned out the lights.

We woke up the next morning and left for The Grand Floridian to make our breakfast reservations at 1900 Park Fare. We left with plenty of time to get to the restaurant however, it was a total cluster trying to get there from our resort. First, we had to take the Disney bus to Magic Kingdom. Getting on the bus took more time than we expected because two older ladies on electric scooters were having a difficult time maneuvering their motorized vehicles onto the bus. Then, we all had to go through security at the park (which irritated me because the security guard didn’t check my camera bag, the only bag I had on me, and when I questioned them about it they said, “Do we need to?” And I answered, “Sure! And you need to check everyone else’s bags coming in here. This place is filled with children and you can’t be too careful!”) Our supposed seven minute walk to the resort was cut short because halfway to our destination, there was a sign that said, “walkway closed for maintenance”. We walked back the way we came and had to go through security again; even the security guards were confused why the walkway was closed. I was stressing but we were able to pivot and board the monorail to get to the resort (which was the very last stop). By the grace of God, we made it to the Floridian in time for our breakfast reservation.

1900 Park Fare had a buffet breakfast. While we enjoyed the Mickey waffles and fruit (and bowls of gummy bears), Disney characters were making their way around the dining room, stopping to talk and take pictures at each table. Mirabel from Encanto was the first to visit. Millie told her that she loved to dance and she and Mirabel did pliés together. Crosby was fussy and not in a great mood but after Mirabel played peekaboo with him, he cheered up. Aladdin was the next character to come to our table and he asked Wells what his dream was. Wells answered, “To be a shark”. I could tell that Wells’ answer caught him off guard and that made me laugh. Millie’s smile was the biggest with Aladdin. Millie also took pictures with Cinderella and Snow White. Mawmaw helped prepare the pages in the autograph book for each character to sign and we were so impressed with all their signatures. Before we left, Maw pulled a baggie out of her purse and filled it up with Wells’ left over gummy bears (this proved useful when the kids got snacky later in the day).

The Grand Floridian was gorgeously decorated for the holidays. The Christmas tree in the lobby was ginormous and themed after “The 12 Days of Christmas” (it inspired me to use pears in my Christmas decor this year). The floor tiles were crafted with different Disney characters. On the second floor, there was a bar dedicated to Beauty and the Beast and even though it was roped off, I just had to go in. I took a picture of the enchanted rose and found the 2017 live-action replica of Cogsworth. From the windows in the lounge, I could see the beautiful grounds of the Floridian, a pool, and the sun glistening off of the lake. I was admiring the roses on the upholstery when my family pulled me out from behind the ropes.

We did a little shopping at the Floridian; I bought of pair of yellow, Belle inspired ears, my mom bought Millie a green-eyed Belle stuffy, Wells a new pin for his collection, and Crosby a Toy Story car to play with. There were some beautiful Dooney and Burke bags but somehow we refrained. Before we left for the monorail, we passed a table where a man was selling Disney trips. We stopped so Wells could trade another one of his pins; the man was super nice and gave the kids Chip and Dale stickers. We all decided that the next time we come to Disney, we want to stay at the Grand Floridian.

We rode the monorail to the next stop, Magic Kingdom. Our family had our own car so we were acting silly on the way. I took a beautiful picture of Mawmaw after we had to beg her to sit down in the moving vehicle. We had a great view of Epcot and our first glimpse of the castle out of the windows. We took the double stroller with us because it fit all three kids; Crosby sat in the front buckled in, Wells on the stool seat behind Cros, and Mill could stand on the platform behind Wells. Chris pushed the stroller down the ramp to the park, “runaway wagon” style and the kids cracked up. We took some pictures at the entrance and then went into Magic Kingdom.

Entering Magic Kingdom was like walking into a Christmas movie. The grand Christmas tree was beautifully decorated with popcorn garland, candles, and gingerbread. Candy canes and nutcrackers decorated Main Street. The stores all had holiday-themed displays, like Minnie baking cookies in the sweets shop window. Christmas lights were strung from the light poles and wreaths with bells hung all around. It was amazing to see the castle amongst the Christmas decor. Blending the magic of Christmas with the wonder of Magic Kingdom made for a really special experience.

We immediately went to our right where I remembered we could meet Mickey Mouse. We were completely flabbergasted when we saw there was not a line. We walked through empty roped off lanes to meet Mickey. Not five minutes later we were meeting the mouse. Both big kids hugged Mickey and so did Mawmaw. He signed their autograph book and kissed my mom on the hand. The photographer took a picture of all of us with Mickey and tried to include a strange man – we had to say, “he’s not with us”. Crosby was asleep so Chris held him during this visit. Mickey was dressed as a magician and he used his cape to cover Crosby while he slept which made for a super cute memory.

The exit door took us through a gift shop and of course the children wanted everything (and so did my mom). Wells put on this huge Fantasia hat and Millie found a pair of sparkly, princess ears that she couldn’t part with. I desperately wanted a Diet Coke and I saw that Mawmaw was at the register about to buy some Aspirin so I ran up to the counter so that I could pay for it and heard the lady at the checkout telling Maw that she could get Aspirin for free at the First Aide building (this comes in handy later). As we left to go take some pictures by the castle, I noticed people waiting in line to meet with Belle in her provincial life blue dress and I got in line immediately! I called for my mom and Millie to leave the store but they didn’t come right away and I was nervous that they’d miss her! They joined me in line and Millie got to meet Belle. She told her all about the books she was reading; Amelia Bedelia and Itty Bitty Princess Kitty. Belle complimented my ears and signed the autograph book. We were so lucky to be in the right place at the right time!

We walked down Main Street and found a Disney worker to take our picture. Crosby had just woken up so hindsight probably not the best time for a picture while his eyes were still adjusting. While we were smiling for the camera, my Mom and Maw found the First Aide building and got some Asprin. We finished before my parents were done so we stopped to listen to the Main Street Philharmonic band playing ragtime music. Once we were all back together again, we found the perfect spot to watch the Festival of Fantasy parade. We were right on the street so people got really close to us trying to get a better view. A lady behind Mill and me kept pushing into us and finally I turned around and said, “If you push me again, I’m going to push back.” She didn’t touch us anymore after that. The parade was amazing; Alice waved right to us, Elsa and Anna did too, Goofy said hi, and we saw Belle in her yellow dress with the Beast.

Once the parade was over, we walked past the castle and got silhouette portraits done of the children. It was incredible; the kids sat as an artist cut out their profiles by hand. Crosby had to sit on my lap to get his done successfully. They were incredibly affordable and great quality. While we waited for the silhouettes to be framed, the kids ate a funnel cake with Maw (her favorite). The most unfortunate part of this experience was while we were waiting in line, Chris and I got pooped on by seagulls! It got all over Chris’ back and in my hair. We were totally grossed out. Maw went into a nearby shop and told them what happened and the shop gave us two new shirts of our choosing, free of charge. It was incredibly kind and I was grateful to have the poop off of us.

I was so looking forward to letting Crosby run around Tom Sawyer’s Island. We remembered having so much fun with Millie there on our last trip. There was no wait to get on the raft and the kids liked looking over the edge at the water (I told them to look out for alligators). We went through a couple trails to find that the play gym Millie had played on in the past was roped off and closed. Crosby enjoyed being out of the stroller and running through the dark caves; Chris was scared that Crosby would fall on the uneven terrain so I stayed right with him and held his hand when he’d let me. Maybe 15 minutes into our adventure, Disney workers were telling us that we all had to get back to the raft because the island was closing. Crosby was devastated and cried the entire raft ride back; I felt so bad that everyone had to listen to him scream. Once we were back to Liberty Square, Maw and I joked about how cute Wells would look in a raccoon hat. Little did we know, Tom Sawyer Island would be demolished six months later.

Before dinner, we ran into Big Al from Country Bear Jamboree. The kids and I had no idea who he was but Millie braved the big, funny-looking bear for an autograph and a sticker (the boys had no interest in him and I didn’t blame them). Mawmaw and Wells found more pennies to smash; it was difficult for Wells to pull the lever around so when he couldn’t muscle it, Maw was there to help him out. I watched and thought about how one day soon, Wells will be older and stronger and we’ll be the ones asking him for help. We went to the restroom and found ourselves in Rapunzel’s neck of the woods. There were beautiful hanging lanterns like we we were in the set of Disney’s, Tangled. We saw Peter Pan and Wendy standing outside the flight ride and there was no wait to visit with them. Wells and Millie were so excited to tell them that we dressed up as Peter Pan characters for Halloween the year before last. Pan asked, “If you were a Lost Boy and you were Tinkerbell, then who dressed up as me?” they both started laughing and I yelled out, “I couldn’t convince their Dad to wear tights!”

We had dinner reservations at the Liberty Tree Tavern. The menu was Thanksgiving style, American cuisine with a three course, plant-based option! We ate salad and rolls, Impossible meatloaf, and a warm apple cake. I spent most of my time going up and down the stairs to the bathroom; first changing Crosby, then Millie had to go, then Wells, Maw, and I needed to use it and there were only two stalls so it was a lot of waiting. We picked the perfect time to eat because it poured down rain while we were in the restaurant and it cleared by the time we finished our meal. Unfortunately, we had to leave our stroller outside while we ate, and it was soaked. After the rain, the temperature dropped significantly, so my Mom and Maw bought the kids sweatshirts. We used the plastic bags from the purchase to cover the stroller seats so the kids would stay dry when they sat.

When it started getting dark, we found a great spot close to Cinderella’s castle to watch the Happily Ever After fireworks show. The crowd closed in tightly around us as everyone jostled for the best view of the show. I held Crosby, Wells sat on Chris’ shoulders, and Millie stood on the stroller seat and leaned against my mom. We watched in awe as castle became alive with animated projections from different Disney films. Chris couldn’t figure out how it all worked; was it projections or led lights? He was impressed with how precise everything looked. The music was timed perfectly with the display happening on the castle and the fireworks were beautiful.

The show lasted longer than we had expected, about twenty minutes, and the kids were waning fast. Wells kept trying to rest on Crosby’s head. We followed the crowd down a beautifully lit Main Street and rode the Disney bus back to the resort. There were no fights from the kids about getting in bed. I reminded every one of the schedule for the next day; our first planned event was brunch at 11am. While the kids slept with my Mom and Mawmaw, I laid in bed and downloaded the pictures from the Disney app onto my camera roll until I fell asleep.

We had a slow morning, everyone ate something small that we brought with us (poptarts, granola bars, oatmeal) the boys watched Bluey on the television and I curled Mills hair. Around 10am, we got back on the Disney bus to Magic Kingdom. The day before had been in the 70s, Crosby even managed to get a little sun, but we left our shorts in our suitcases and put on our pants and jackets because our third day turned out to be much cooler. We rode to the park, went through security, hopped on the monorail, and headed to the Polynesian Resort. We were navigating Disney like seasoned pros.

The Polynesian was starkly different than the bright, Floridian resort we explored the morning before; it was decorated like a 1970’s tiki bar. I was feeling a little underwhelmed but one of my students recommended the breakfast at ‘Ohana, and Stitch visits with every table so I kept an open mind. We were seated at a round table and the waitress brought cinnamon doughnuts that Crosby ate face first. Mickey, Pluto, Lilo, and Stitch were all wearing leis and parading in a conga line through the restaurant. The plant-based breakfast that they brought out was delicious; vegan eggs, Mickey waffles, breakfast sausage, and potato wedges. Pluto came to our table and took a selfie with me and signed the autograph book. Crosby finally got to meet Mickey (he was asleep the day before) and played peek-a-boo with him; Mawmaw got a kick out of that and got it on camera. When Stitch came to the table, Crosby was a little uneasy about him! He waved at Stitch but in a bye-bye, stay away from me kind of way and he cried when I tried to get him to take a picture with him. When Lilo came to the table, Millie showed her the Lilo stuffy that she got on her first trip to Disney. Then, she told Lilo that her favorite line from the movie was, “stupid head” and she laughed and laughed because she knew it was a bad word (even Lilo covered her mouth like she was laughing).

We were stuffed from our meal and ready to head to the park but before we left the Polynesian for Magic Kingdom, we stopped at a gift shop just inside the resort. Maw wanted to find some Lilo and Stitch merch for their cousin Lily and while we were shopping, Chris found a magnetic Heihei, the chicken from Disney’s, Moana, that could clip to your shoulder or hat. Wells thought it was hysterical so he sported the chicken the rest of the day.

When we arrived at Magic Kingdom, the first thing we did was get in line for It’s a Small World, animatronic boat ride. It was only a 25 minute wait and we thought it would be a great ride for Crosby because it was gentle and indoors (even though it was chilly, it was bright and it was affecting his eyes and his mood). As we rode around, I sat back and listened as Maw explained to Millie what countries were being represented. I saw Wells playing with Crosby who was sitting on Chris’ lap. I laughed with my mom when the dolls kicked up their skirts in France. I was so overwhelmed with happiness in that moment that I actually had a tear run down my cheek. I wiped it away as we walked to the next ride.

While we were in line for the merry-go-round, Wells realized he had lost one of his new pins. We thought he might have lost it waiting in line for the last ride. Wells was upset so Maw went into a shop close by and told them what happened. They let Wells pick any pin he wanted from their tradable pin collection (we ended up finding the lost skateboard pin in the stroller later that day). Crosby had fallen asleep while we were waiting to get on the ride so Chris got out of line and held him while he slept. Because of their heights, I needed to stand between Mill and Wells on the merry-go-round. They were so excited to choose their horses; Millie wanted the one with roses. I had the kids quote Mary Poppins and say “view halloo”, pretending our horses would come to life and race off the ride. While we went around and around we saw the back of Cinderella’s castle, the sword in the stone, and their daddy waving at us.

The wait at the Princess Fairytale Hall was under 20 minutes so we hurried to get in line. While we waited, we admired the huge pictures of the princesses hanging on the walls. Millie decided that Aurora was her favorite princess because she was wearing a pink gown (she’s never seen sleeping beauty) but she said, “At the boutique, I will choose Belle, Mommy, because I know she’s your favorite.” ; such a sweet girl. The Princesses that were out to visit with were Tiana and Cinderella. We had already seen Cinderella at breakfast the day before so Millie was most excited about meeting Princess Tiana. She complimented her gown and had her sign the autograph book. Wells hugged Tiana tightly around her waist and Crosby ran to her and waved. She was really sweet and the kids could feel her warm spirit. After meeting with the princesses, we left through another gift shop where Millie was sprinkled with pixie dust and Wells picked out a knights cape and sword. There was another line to meet up with two different princesses however, they don’t tell you who the princesses will be. Since they could’ve been princesses we had already seen at 1900 Park Fare, we asked a man coming out of the Princess Hall which princesses he saw. He said, “I don’t know…Belle?” so we ran to get back in line. Unfortunately, even though the line was short, we presumed they were swapping princesses because the wait took twice as long as the wait before and when we finally entered, it was not Belle.

The visiting princesses were Elaina of Avalor and Rapunzel. As we approached the front of the line, Rapunzel saw Wells and said, “Hi, cutie!” And he was smitten. He was being shy and hid behind a pillar as she continued to play with him until it was our turn to meet with Elaina. I had déjà-vu seeing Millie with Elaina as I remembered the sweet moment with her from years before; baby Millie sat on the floor and Elaina sat down with her. This time, I had three children sitting on the rug. I felt grateful to be able to bring Mill back to Disney to experience the magic again.

Visiting with Rapunzel might have been my favorite part of the trip. She was so animated and playful with the kids as she taught them to mime. Wells was feeling a little starstruck, so Rapunzel used miming to lower the pressure of a verbal conversation. It turned their “meeting” into a game. They framed their faces and pretended to pull a rope. Hearing Wells crack up was the best. Even though we didn’t get to meet with Belle in her yellow dress, this turned out to be even better.

We finished with the princesses just in time to make it to our dinner reservation all the way down Main Street. My mom loves Winnie the Pooh, so when planning this trip, I knew we had to eat at the Crystal Palace. As we were being seated, we saw Pooh, Eeyore, Piglet, and Tigger marching around in their Friendship Day parade. We sat at another big, round table and Crosby was in rare form as he stood on his seat and tossed utensils across the table. The food was buffet style and there were not many vegan options so the chef created a dish of rice and vegetables that was really delicious. The mini carrots were so cute; they looked like they came straight from Rabbit’s garden. Wells wanted to use my camera so I allowed him to take pictures during the character visits. The pictures he took came out really cute and it was neat to see his perspective. When Crosby met Piglet, he hit him straight on the nose. I signed, “gentle” and Piglet copied. Honestly, I don’t know why Piglet got so close to Crosby’s face, he kind of had it coming.

When my mom met Pooh, she had the biggest smile on her face. She hugged him and told him that he was her favorite (like he couldn’t tell from all her Pooh gear). We were still standing from our visit with Pooh when Tigger came to visit. He was tall and I thought he would frighten Crosby but instead, Crosby started flapping his elbows at him like he was doing the chicken dance and Tigger chicken danced right along with him.

After dinner at the Crystal Palace, we had Millie’s Bippity Boppity Boutique reservation. Only two people were able to be with her for this experience so my mom and I accompanied Millie. To get there, we walked through Cinderella’s Castle and admired the mosaic tiles depicting Cinderella’s story. We ran into Cinderella’s evil Step-Sisters; we said hi but they were on the move so we couldn’t get their autographs. Signing into the boutique, I explained that Mill had her own crown (we brought one of her pageant crowns with roses on it). Millie began telling them about her pageant experiences and she recited her stage introduction for them. The girls at the counter were so impressed, they placed her with who they considered the best stylist (their friend Savannah who was super sweet) and gave her a roll of Belle stickers!

While we waited for Millie’s name to be called (she chose to be referred to as her majesty) we looked through a book of different dresses and their price ranges; each princess had a cheapest, middle, and highest price option based on how elaborate you wanted your costume to be. We went with the middle option for Mill which was a gorgeous, yellow gown with gold detailing. Speaking of details, even the wallpaper at this place had Cinderella’s mice completing sewing jobs. Once Mills name was called, “Here ye, hear ye. I’m looking for Her Majesty Millie.” She popped right up and got to grab her dress and accessories and head to the dressing room.

Mill’s stylist, Savannah, took us to a room, hung up her dress, and when she left, some Disney Magic happened. The room went dark and Cinderella’s Fairy Godmother appeared inside of the mirror. She spoke to us, waved her magic wand, and then disappeared. The lights turned back on and the mirror was just a mirror again. The look on Millie’s face was priceless! She put on her new, Belle gown and she was a vision. Millie was between sizes; the 5/6 gown would’ve just fit her and the 7/8 was a little big but we chose the size up so she’d have more time to wear it playing dress up at home. I knotted the straps on her shoulders so it would lay higher on her chest. We returned to the shop to wait for her turn for hair and makeup and so many people were already complimenting Millie on how beautiful she looked. She was really feeling herself; twirling around in the big mirror for everyone to see.

Savannah walked us from the shop to Cinderella‘s Castle. The entrance was located in the castle itself, which none of us were expecting. The door was through the castle passageway with the mosaics and the boutique entrance was inside there. We entered into a large room with such hustle and bustle of ladies in maid costumes pampering so many little girls in salon chairs. Millie was seated in a corner chair, while my mom and I sat on a bench right behind her. We were placed next to a very boisterous male stylist who, every time my mom began to tear up, which was often, would toss tissues in her direction (an attempt at humor) that quickly became more annoying than charming. A few chairs down sat a little girl, maybe two years old, with dark hair and dark eyes who looked so much like my sister. The resemblance stirred up a wave of emotions for my mom.

Millie climbed into the chair, and we showed the stylist how her Belle stuffy’s hair was styled; high bun on top with soft curls down the back. It wasn’t one of the options on the boutique’s style board, but the stylist, who had long hair like Millie’s, smiled confidently and said she could recreate exactly what we had in mind. Most of the girls were getting the classic slicked-back top knot, which I’ve never found especially cute. We watched as stylists added extra hairpieces to build those buns, but not Millie. She had more than enough hair of her own. She chose a pink braid to wrap around her bun, not what I would have chosen but she was the princess.

When it came time for pixie dust, Mill declined because she was worried the glitter would end up everywhere. I gently convinced her it was part of the magic and not to stress about it (bless her heart, she’s always worried like her mama). Soon, a second stylist stepped in to paint her nails with sparkly polish, which made her feel even more regal. Mill made the sassiest, duck-lip face while they were applying her lip gloss; it was adorable. Next came a gem for her cheek and this was a whole thing. The stylist held up a sheet of sticker gems and asked Millie which one she’d like, but it quickly turned into a puzzling, back-and-forth. Mill would point to one, and the stylist would respond, “No, not that one,” without offering any explanation. After a few rounds of this, I walked over and asked, “Does this star work?” The answer was another flat “No.” Trying to stay patient, but admittedly a little more irritated, I pointed again and asked, “How about this flower?” Finally, that one was deemed acceptable. I’m still not sure why nearly every gem on the sheet was off-limits. Ironically, after the whole ordeal, Millie peeled the sticker off before we left the castle.

During the princess experience, I was capturing videos on my phone and taking photos with my camera, while Disney photographers were also snapping pictures. One of them handed me a QR code to access the images he was taking of Millie. Thankfully, I scanned it right away because when I checked the gallery, the photos uploaded weren’t of my daughter, they were of a blonde girl in a blue, Cinderella dress. When the photographer came back around, I explained the mix-up. He told me the only way to retrieve Millie’s photos was to visit the Disney PhotoPass customer service desk at Town Square Theater near the park entrance, provide the time we were at the boutique, and have them manually locate and link the images to my account. Annoying.

Millie was being dolled up facing away from the mirror, so she hadn’t seen herself. When Savannah finally spun her around, she was completely amazed by her reflection. She threw her hands up and exclaimed, “I’m gorgeous!” and of course, I reminded her that she’s always gorgeous. Savannah draped a sash over her shoulder and gently placed her crown on her head. I could hear a few little girls nearby whispering and asking how she got such a fancy crown (the one we brought from home). My mom helped her put on the accessories that were included with the package; a necklace, clip-on earrings, and a ring. She was then escorted to a full-length mirror to take in the entire makeover from head to toe. Before saying goodbye, Savannah gifted Millie a beautiful carriage necklace and gave her a big, warm hug. It was such a sweet ending to a truly magical experience.

While Millie, my mom, and I were enjoying the Bibbidi Bobbidi Boutique experience, Chris, Wells, Crosby, and Mawmaw were having their own adventure. They headed to Mickey’s PhilharMagic and were able to walk right in without having to wait. Crosby sat on Chris’s lap but refused to keep his 3D glasses on. Even so, both boys loved the show. Afterward, they braved the Haunted Mansion line, waiting over an hour. Crosby ended up falling asleep, and Chris held him while they waited. When we finished at the Boutique, I called Chris to meet up, but they were just nearing the front of the line. I told him to call me once they were done so we could all reconnect after our separate adventures.

In the meantime, Millie, my mom, and I stopped by a shop that photographs the girls all dressed up like princesses. The line was full of waiting royalty, so we decided to come back later and head to the Winnie the Pooh ride instead, which only had a 15-minute wait. While we were in line, Millie stayed entertained with the interactive “honey” screens, happily playing as we moved forward. Just then, the fireworks began at Cinderella’s Castle, and we had a perfect view of the bursts lighting up the sky.

The Pooh ride was adorable; it felt like we were drifting through the pages of a storybook. When we finished, we wandered into the gift shop next door, filled with all things Pooh, and planned to meet Chris there. Suddenly, everything was blocked off, and we were told to stay where we were. After the fireworks, high winds had picked up, and the park began spraying water as a precaution in case any sparks had landed. It was an unexpected pause in our evening and the boys were so cold waiting outside.

As soon as the Disney staff reopened the walkways, Millie, my mom, and I hurried back, carefully dodging puddles, to the shop offering princess portraits. We were determined to beat the crowd and be first in line and we were! Chris, Mawmaw, and the boys met us there, and we captured the most beautiful photos; Millie glowing as a princess, Wells the brave knight, Crosby smiling. Special family pictures.

Then Crosby fell.

He had been running around the store while my mom kept an eye on him, and I was up by the registers looking at pins Wells might want to trade. Then I heard him cry, and my mom calling my name, or maybe it was the other way around. It all blurred together. He had hit his head on a metal merchandise rack, and suddenly there was blood everywhere; on him, on me, on the floor. Mill saw it and she burst into tears. It was chaos.

I frantically looked for something to stop the bleeding, but everything nearby seemed dirty. I couldn’t bring myself to press something unclean against his wound. The girl behind the register called for help, but it didn’t feel like anyone was coming fast enough. People started crowding in, asking questions, getting too close. All I could think about was how exposed his tiny body felt in that moment.

The medical team was taking too long. So I ran.

I remembered where the First Aid building was because Mawmaw had gone there for aspirin. I ran through the crowd, singing to Crosby the whole way. If anyone spoke to me, I didn’t hear them. I was focused on getting Crosby help. No one was at the front desk, so I pounded on it and shouted, “I need help, now!” When no one came, I rushed toward the back until a nurse appeared and said, “Medical staff were on their way to you.” I replied, “Well, I’m here now! Can you help my son?”

She led us to a curtained room where I held Crosby close. In between his whimpering cries, I nursed him, trying to calm us both. I could hear Chris’s voice nearby, and then a stretcher with tiny straps was wheeled past the curtains. I cried seeing his tiny body strapped down on the gurney. Chris and I climbed into the back of the ambulance, and only then did it hit me to ask about the big kids. Chris told me that he spoke with a man who got our family a private transport back to the resort. I found out later that they had a tour-like experience as the transport took them back roads through the park.

It took our emergency transport more than fifteen minutes to get from Magic Kingdom to the hospital (Disney should really have one closer). The EMT told us to expect stitches. The AdventHealth Celebration hospital walls were painted with bright colored sea creatures. It seemed empty. We were immediately taken into a room and I could finally hold my baby again. The nurse checking us in also believed Crosby would need stitches. As we waited for the doctor, Chris kept my family updated because my phone had died after a full day of taking pictures and videos at the park.

Before the doctor came in to examine Crosby’s wound, a man from the billing department rolled in with his computer to collect our insurance information and our three-hundred dollar copay, even though we had already explained that Disney would be covering everything (and this ended up being a bill that went to collections and then a year later Disney wrote us a check to cover the expenses).

The doctor was confident that medical glue would be Crosby’s best option. When I mentioned that two people had told us he would need stitches, she quickly reassured me otherwise. She explained that the glue would leave less scarring and would simply peel off once the wound had healed. A nurse came in and applied a numbing gel, and Crosby didn’t wake up once.

When the doctor returned, she told us she didn’t believe that Crosby had a concussion since he never lost consciousness and had been crying appropriately; first from the pain of the fall, then from being frightened when they placed him on the gurney. She happened to be from Cleveland, and we chatted about books while she applied the glue. She instructed us to not put anything on the wound or to pick off the glue. We were to call our primary care physician when we got back home to set up an appointment to check on the healing progress.

When it was all over, Disney had a car waiting to take us back to the resort, and I was impressed to see that it had a car seat for Crosby. By the time we made it back to our hotel room, we were completely exhausted. We were so grateful to find the big kids bathed, in their pajamas, and ready for bed. My mom was apologetic, and we kept reassuring her that it wasn’t her fault; Crosby was still unsteady on his feet, and the ground had been wet from the water Disney used after the fireworks. I told everyone that next on the schedule was packing up and having breakfast at Chef Mickey’s, but if Crosby wasn’t feeling up to it, we could always cancel and have an easy morning before getting to the airport.

Thankfully, Crosby slept well through the night and in the morning he seemed to be acting completely normal. We needed to be out of our rooms by 10am so we all got ready for the day and packed up our bags that we left with the concierge on our way out to breakfast. As we were boarding the transport back to Magic Kingdom to hop on the monorail, I saw another boy who looked around Crosby’s age with the exact same gash on his forehead. His mom and I exchanged stories and she explained that her son fell onto an open drawer in their hotel room. I could tell by her accent that she wasn’t from the US (she sounded Irish) and she expressed how anxious she was about the medical bills. Her son had to get stitches and I felt blessed Crosby’s fall wasn’t worse.

Getting off the monorail to the Contemporary I was put off by the design of the resort. It reminded me of a motel because of how guests doors faced the open atrium. It seemed dated and exposed. The monorail goes through the atrium and you can see right into the Chef Mickeys, where we were eating breakfast.

The breakfast at Chef Mickeys is buffet style and there was plenty of delicious food we could eat. Wells ate a plate full of tater tots and later he said that was his new favorite food. Mickey, Pluto, and Goofy came to our table first. Mickey was sympathetic to Crosby and his head gash (incredible how they communicate without speaking). Goofy was so tall! Wells was excited to see Donald Duck. Donald hugged Wells and wrote “#1” next to his signature in his autograph book. When Minnie Mouse came to the table, Millie showed her Mollie, her American Girl doll, dressed up in her Minnie Ears and outfit. Crosby actually hugged Minnie. The kids had a great time dancing with the characters and other children in the middle of the restaurant. It was a great way to end our time at the park.

While we were eating, Chris took a phone call from Disney Customer Relations who explained that they would be covering the cost of our Bippity Bippity Boutique experience because it was cut short by the incident. They also asked for Crosby’s clothing size as they were going to replace his shirt and sweatshirt that was soiled with blood. The clothing items were shipped to our house and arrived a couple weeks after we got home. They asked Chris to meet with the hotel manager at our resort to confirm information for the coverage of the medical bills. Despite the unfortunate fall, Disney was really trying to make sure we had a pleasant experience.

We were absolutely stuffed full leaving Chef Mickeys. As we rode the monorail one last time, I took some beautiful photos of the kids in the Florida sun and Wells told me all about his favorite parts of the trip. While Chris spoke to the hotel manager back at our resort, I grabbed our bags from the concierge, and the children colored pictures in the lobby with a Disney Cast Member. Before loading the van, I took one last look at the children smiling with a huge, Christmas tree behind them decorated in Disney film.

I made sure that we all had coats packed in our carry-on bags as we were leaving 70 degree weather and entering the frigid, Ohio cold. Sitting on the plane I realized I would need a vacation after this vacation because as fun as our trip was, it was go, go, go the entire time. Yes I was tired and yes it was expensive but the memories we made during this trip were worth it. I made a photo album of our trip through Shutterfly and the children love to go through it and reminisce our vacation. They are already asking me, “When can we go back to Disney?”

Summer of 23

Summer of 23

Maternity leave with Crosby rolled into summer break. I printed off a checklist I found on Pinterest of fun ideas to make this summer enjoyable for the kids.

Beautiful dancing, colors, and music at the Asian Festival commenced our summer. We heard a guzheng performance, saw dragon kites, and ate lo mein noodles. We watched a Tai Chi studio performance; the movements were so fluid and mesmerizing. Millie danced with an Asian exercise dance group; Wells started to but quickly found his way back to holding my hand. Both kids got their faces painted for the first time; Mill got a rainbow arching from her forehead down her cheek and Wells got a Spider-Man web. He wasn’t thrilled that the artist was touching his face but he was happy when he looked in the mirror. They both colored Japanese opera masks and painted cherry blossoms using the bottom of a coke bottle. I bought an umbrella tree bonsai plant that Mill named Bonsai Bonsai the Bonsai.

During our first week together, we painted rocks for the garden; we painted a lemon slice, a rainbow, and a purple rock that said, brave. Millie and Wells both helped me in the kitchen; Mill helped by chopping vegetables for dinner and Wells helped by putting parmesan cheese on the garlic bread and dividing salad into bowls (not for him though because Wells doesn’t like salad).

We went to the library to register for the summer reading program and to see a children’s comedian, Mike Hemmelgarn. During his performance, Mr. Hemmelgarn juggled balls, performed magic tricks, and told jokes with balloons and puppets. Wells’ favorite part was when the skunk puppet sprayed (squirt gun) and Mill’s favorite part was when Mr. Hemmelgarn drew a face on a dry erase board and that face became a moving puppet!

After the show, Millie and Wells played with legos while I picked out some books; a ballerina book for Mill, a shark dog book for Wells, and a book called, Saying Goodbye to Lulu (we’re getting ready to have to say goodbye to my family dog, Brandy). I heard Wells say, “Mommy? Mommy?” We had to leave the library early because Wells had an accident. I was proud of him though, for telling me, and that he mostly held himself all the way across the library until we got to the bathroom.

Once it was officially strawberry pickin’ season, we took our buckets and went to the fields. My friend from work, Madison met us there. Wells would pick a berry, take a bite, and chuck it as far as he could throw. If he wanted to keep the berry, he’d toss it into the bucket and yell, “goal!” Crosby was perfectly content in the carrier, even as I bent down to pick berries. The strawberries were delicious and we shared them with my mom and maw.

We had a fun day swimming at Maw’s pool. It didn’t get warmer than 75 degrees but the kids swam until their lips turned purple. Wells hit the weight requirement for his puddle jumper (it’s blue with a shark on it) but he won’t trust the float. My mom held him in the pool all the while wearing the puddle jumper. Millie swam all around with her puddle jumper on and even floated on her back. Wells tried jumping into the baby pool but the bottom was incredibly slippery (last year Maw slipped when getting into it). He landed his jump but his feet slid from under him. He hit his head on the edge of the baby pool and we watched for concussion symptoms all night.

Millie had no interest in Taylor’s (my step-mom’s, granddaughter’s) softball game. Instead of watching, Millie spelled her name in the dirt with little sticks. Wells found larger sticks and played, “swords” with whoever would swing them around. After the game, we went to the Columbus Arts Festival and got the kids snow cones, pretzels, and lemonade. Millie saw her dance teacher and spun the prize wheel at her company’s stand. She won free tickets to the Nutcracker! Both kids rolled down the hill by the river with my dad. It was a good day.

Week two of summer vacation started off rainy. We played board games; Hi Ho Cherry-o and Candy Land. Millie started VBS at our church, that was cowboy themed, so I got her a new pair of boots to wear. She was so happy to see many of her friends from school. Each day they read scripture and prayed about trusting God in difficult situations. On her last day of VBS, Chris asked her what she learned and she said, “A lot and nothing.” VBS family night included songs (and dances) of praise, bounce houses, and a petting zoo that had a zebra. Millie was not scared to go down the big, blowup slide. The kids met a police officer and sat in the driver’s seat of a cruiser. My favorite part of the night was Wells doing the “cowboy dance” in the middle of the aisle. It was awesome to see both kids having fun while worshipping the Lord.

Wells continued to go to speech therapy twice a week. Since Crosby’s birth, in March, Chris has been taking Wells to his speech appointments. Wells is working on the f, c, s, sh, g, and t sounds. The toughest part of therapy is making sure Wells doesn’t fall asleep on the car ride there! When he wakes up from his car nap, he is not happy and the first ten minutes of therapy are useless. His therapist, Jody suggested that we only have appointments once a week instead of our usual twice a week. I was not keen to this notion as aggressive speech therapy is the best way to help with his Apraxia. People who hear Wells speak, continue to praise him for his hard work and how well he is sounding.

Millie received a birthday party invite from a friend in her pre-k class. It was held at the play place at our church. It was very much a “little girls” party; pink, sparkly, unicorns and rainbows. When a new girl would come through the door, the girls would run, scream, and hug each other. Millie wanted me to go with her in the play area but my gosh, it smelled like dirty feet. Still, I gratefully followed her because one day, she might not want mom to be there with her at parties.

On the same day that Millie had her friend’s birthday party, we had our cousin Lily’s 7th birthday celebration at Chuck E. Cheese. This was the first time my kids had ever been there and the first time Chris or I had been in over 20 years. There wasn’t a ball pit or jungle gym like we remembered; it was completely modernized with Kidz Bop projected on the wall and swipe cards instead of tokens. Millie and Wells played shooting games, rode on a small carousel, got into a machine that dumped balls on their heads, and rolled a ball that made a monkey eat bananas. Wells’ favorite part was the shark projected on the floor; he ran around trying to stomp on the fish. Millie ate three pieces of pizza with the cheese off. Both kids had a great time.

We rarely make it over to the East side of town so after the birthday party at Chuck E. Cheese, we took the kids to the outdoor mall. They were impressed with the life-sized, Lego giraffe and Lego Barbie creations. They both laughed when the stone frogs would spit water in the outdoor fountain. Wells wanted to take the coins out (he almost fell in). We took Millie to the American Girl store and she was so excited. Chris didn’t like being there however, my inner child was just as excited as Mill. She knew exactly what she wanted to get – the bitty, bitty baby from the Christmas catalog. She got the baby and a new pair of shoes for her doll, Kit.

After treating Millie, we went to Build-A-Bear for Wells. He had never been before. He chose a great white shark with a huge head. He threw it on the ground; mad. He said, “It’s flat!” He didn’t understand that he was going to get to stuff it. We looked through the different sound bites but we landed on puppy noises so that he could be, Shark-dog. We’ve been reading the Sharkdog books from the library. Chris and I were so impressed that the lady helping with the stuffing understood Wells when he said and spelled his name. Millie and Wells both put hearts in Sharkdog. The joy on Wells’ face was everything.

The weekend before Father’s Day, Chris and his dad took Millie and Wells to Home Depot to do a Kids Workshop activity. They wore orange aprons, painted, and had a lot of fun assembling table top putting greens. (During which I got some quiet, alone time with Crosby.) For Father’s Day, Millie gave Chris a mug that she picked out that said, “Dad Joke Pro” and he loved it. We went to church and the kids danced in the Praise House to the Cowboy Dance song; Wells is obsessed and his lasso moves are the best. After church, we spent the day with Chris’ parents, watching the Navy’s Blue Angels fly right above the rooftop. The Air Show was held in Columbus for the first time in over two decades and you could see the flights from my in-laws house. Neither kid was particularly interested in the air show; they were busy playing with badminton rackets. We ate a dairy-free, chocolate cake that Millie helped me bake and the kids fell asleep on the car ride home.

It rained everyday for the remainder of June. We did in-door activities to pass the time. We decorated cookies; Wells decorated blue dinosaurs and Millie decorated pink, sparkly tiaras. They were both most interested in eating the sprinkles. We created pictures using dot stickers, played with sensory bins (cornflakes and construction vehicles), sent cards to family members, built houses with magnet tiles, and read lots of books.

The kids were so excited to have a getaway weekend with Grandma and Grandpa. We planned to show them the Arc Encounter, the Newport Aquarium, and the Cincinnati Zoo. Unfortunately, the night before we were set to leave, Wells threw up and had diarrhea. I was really worried because his vomit was black and everything I found on Google said that could be a sign of internal bleeding. I called the pediatrician in the morning and she reassured me that the color was because of the amount of black food he ate (Oreo-O’s, black beans, Oreo cookies). She said that his symptoms sounded like a gastro-virus that would run it’s course within 72 hours.

Even though Wells was feeling under the weather, he still wanted to go on the trip. We packed up my in-laws new Expedition and drove to Kentucky. During the car ride, we found that Bob Marley’s, Three Little Birds, soothed Crosby when he would fuss; it was instantaneous. Millie practiced her sight words with Grandma in the third row. Wells slept.

At the Ark Encounter, the kids were scared of the sounds inside the exhibit and they did not want to look at the wax animals. Their favorite part was the playground. Wells said, “Thank you, Mommy for taking me here.” He led me through a maze, we raced, and we went on the see-saw together. I was super proud of Millie because she went on both zip-line rides (something she was too scared to try last year). Wells stayed hydrated by eating ice chips but by the time we got to the car, his temperature was 102.

We drove an hour to Cincinnati and checked into our hotel. We had an awesome view of a clock tower and we were on the same floor as the grandparents. We weren’t there 10 minutes before we changed into our bathing suits and went to the in-door pool. The water was the perfect temperature for Wells. It was the first time that Wells trusted his puddle-jumper and floated on his own! I sat on the steps of the pool, holding Crosby, and watched Chris swim and have fun with Millie and Wells. It was a beautiful time.

For dinner, we went to the hotel restaurant (they had an excellent soft pretzel). Wells ate a single french fry and threw it up later. Wells had a difficult night; fever and diarrhea. Crosby slept wonderfully for his first night away from home; he slept between me and Millie. Mill moves around in her sleep so I had to be mindful of how close she was getting to Crosby throughout the night. At one point, she hit her head on the headboard (it was really loud).

Morning came quick. We packed, ate pop-tarts, and loaded into the car on the way to the Newport Aquarium. Wells enjoyed looking at the different frogs; brightly colored poisonous frogs, big-eyed frogs, and frogs that stuck to the glass. Millie colored fish pictures with our initials on them with Grandpa. The fish were projected onto a digital screen. Both kids were super brave and walked across a tightrope bridge suspended over a tank full of sharks!

Before we went to the Cincinnati Zoo, we had lunch at an inner-city Skyline restaurant. The atmosphere was awesome and it was surrounded by brightly painted shops and a beautiful fountain. We went to the zoo and saw the hippos, Fiona and Fritz. Fiona was such a ham, kissing the glass and we saw Fritz kiss his daddy; it was so sweet. We got to see a tiger taking a bath, a snow leopard moving around the enclosure, and little lizards running around everywhere (I didn’t realize Ohio had lizards). Before we left, we stopped at the gift shop. Millie got a tie dye baseball hat that said, Fiona and Wells got a squishy ball in the shape of a shark.

July 4th was a special day. We had my mom and Maw over, Shauna, and Chris’ family, too. We ate and played corn hole. Once it got dark, we lit sparklers – Wells didn’t want to hold one; he tried on Memorial Day and didn’t like it. Millie did cartwheels in the yard while we watched the fireworks over the trees. Mawmaw lit Millie’s room with neon light sticks and the kids slept together through the sound of patriotic booms.

Millie would work on sight words at the breakfast table while Wells ate blueberry waffles (two, cut up, with butter on them, and syrup on the side). For every book that Mill read independently, she would get to add a pom-pom ball to her book worm, Maws idea, and she named it, Dotty. The word “the” gave her the most trouble. She could never remember it. Wells knew some sight words before the end of the summer; a, I.

Before lunch, we would play on the back patio in the baby pool and water table. The magnetic water balloons were the kids’ favorite toy this summer. They would trap their toys in the water balloons and throw them. Crosby got a water balloon to the cheek once – he’s a tough guy and didn’t even notice. Wells threw a water balloon at the back door at the same time that Chris was opening the door to ask me a question. Water got all over the hardwood floor but all we could do was laugh. It felt like heaven as Crosby slept on my chest, while I watched Millie and Wells water the flowers. Then, a fight would happen over the watering cans and I would heat up chicky nugs.

Dru and Uncle Nick wanted to take the kids putt-putting. This was their first time playing putt-putt golf. Millie of course, chose a pink ball. I was super impressed with how well she was lining up her shot and swinging the club. Wells mostly just ran all over the green. There were some arcade games in the lobby and Millie wanted to try the claw machine. She was impatient and hit the release button right over the drop shoot. She was devastated she didn’t win a toy (We explained to her that those games are rigged anyway). After the tears, we went out to eat at a Mexican restaurant and found out that Mill really loves chips and salsa (she still doesn’t like tomato’s though, she thinks they’re squirty).

Millie was invited to an open house at her ballet studio for a dance exploration event. Chris took her and I stayed home with the boys. We both got the start time wrong so she was there almost an hour early however, Millie was able to have one-on-one time with instructors and older ballerinas in the company and was able to take pictures with them in their performance costumes. She was most excited about the ice-cream truck that came at the end. Chris said she did a really great job.

Wells had a good experience at his first dentist appointment! He watched Millie go before him. The tech gave him a pair of Spider-Man sunglasses to wear and she didn’t turn on her head lamp due to Wells’ eye sensitivity. I remembered to prepare him about the chair moving (I forgot with Millie). His cleaning didn’t last longer than five minutes and we found out that he didn’t have any cavities! I was nervous, the boy loves his sweets.

Both boys had an appointment with Children’s ophthalmology. Mawmaw came with us. Unfortunately, Crosby has the same genetic syndrome that Wells does and after the examination, it was confirmed that he has stage 1 dry eye. Wells allowed the cornea specialist to look into his eyes instead of squeezing them shut like he’s done in the past. I was so proud of Wells for doing a good job at this appointment that I took him to a trampoline park for a thirty minute jump. He would run across the trampolines and it looked so funny; his torso stayed still while his little legs moved so quickly.

The KidzBop Live Tour came through Columbus and we bought tickets because Mill is obsessed. She was pumped to be going to this concert; I let her pick out her outfit. She completed her look with a unicorn bow and a fuzzy, fanny-pack. The concert was held at the fairgrounds. Waiting in line to get in, I ran into a teacher friend and a current student of mine. I was wanded before entry and Wells was insistent on being scanned too. He was so observant; he held out his arms and turned around just like he saw me do. The whole fam went to this concert, including Crosby with his headphones. We arrived early enough to eat a funnel cake before the show. Millie was bummed only 4 kids performed. A little girl sitting in front of us shared beaded jewelry with Mill. I bought Mill a tour shirt and Wells a hat. We left shortly after intermission- it was hot and loud. Their new KidzBop attire read, “KidzBop Never Stop” and we had fun on the car ride home changing the last word of that slogan. Wells’ was my favorite, “KidzBop never poops”.

My best friend Lindsey invited us to spend a long weekend at Posey Lake in Hudson, Michigan with her and her family at her grandmothers lake house. Millie had been asking to go to the beach all summer so she finally got her chance to play in the sand. Wells pretended to give me ice-cream cones made out of sand. I was very impressed with how much Millie wanted to be in the water. It was awesome to see her and Chris play together in the lake; he would jump off the dock and she would score him. He taught her to close her mouth when waves came. We took pontoon rides around the lake and spotted turtles sunning on logs. Both Millie and Wells got to drive to boat with Lindsey’s help. We made s’mores at night; Millie liked her s’mores with a Reese Cup (it’s amazing that they make plant-based chocolate bars). Chris, Crosby, and I slept in a full sized bed while Millie and Wells slept in their sleeping bags on the floor. While we were sleeping on the first night, Wells managed to get his head stuck under the bed. I think the kids’ favorite part was jumping on the trampoline with Logan and Ben.

When we got home from the lake, our pet fish Shark had gone belly up. He wasn’t floating at the top but he was gone. We had an inclination that the ammonia levels were too high (I had been over feeding him and I didn’t know that could be an issue). Chris and I discussed what to do and we thought it best to be honest with the kids about what happened to Shark. We explained that Shark’s water made him sick and that he was dead. Wells was very upset; he cried. He cried when we buried him in the backyard under the pine tree. We all decorated the box Shark was buried in and we put his favorite plant in with him. Wells cried the next morning when he couldn’t feed him. It was incredibly sad. We decided that we will get another fish but not quite yet. Wells already decided that our next fish’s name will be Shark Junior.

The kids really wanted to go to the Ohio State Fair to ride on rides since they didn’t get to go on any when we were there for the Kidz Bop concert. My Dad agreed to help me take them. It was the hottest day ever. Millie was too scared to go on the roller coasters with Papa but they went into the FunHouse together. While they did that, I paid a man behind the darts counter to let Wells win a prize; to my surprise, Wells popped two balloons with the darts and he won a blue lemur! My Dad took both Mill and Wells on their first Ferris wheel ride; they were very brave. I took the kids through a Spider-Man maze (I almost slid into Mills back going down the slide). We shared a lemonade, French fries, corn on the cob, and a giant pickle.

We moved the kids’ rooms! Millie was moved into what was the guest room, Wells moved into Mills old room, and Crosby finally got a space of his own, in Wells’ old room. Millie’s new room is attached to the bathroom, which we felt was fitting as she’s the only girl sibling. Millie’s room was inspired by Sawn Lake. She has pink walls and lily pad curtains. There are ornate, brass details; her lamp, curtain rod, and side table pulls. She loves the space and it was fun giving her a “big girl” room. Wells is out of his crib and in a toddler bed. It was an adjustment encouraging him to stay in his bed through the night. Sharks are everywhere; a shark jaw bone, shark blankets, and hanging shark decor. Crosby is using Wells’ crib. I created his name sign for above his crib and Little Bear decor.

Sending Millie off to Kindergarten was easy because she was so ready. I was proud to send her to school with the knowledge she already had and the faith of how much she would learn. Going back to school myself was not so easy. Crosby was refusing the bottle and it was stressing me out. Chris was able to use his last weeks of paternity leave to watch Crosby while I started back to work. He was able to push through while Crosby learned that Mama was going to be gone for many hours during the day. Like the doctors said, if he gets hungry enough, he’ll take the bottle. After 3ish weeks, it was a non issue.

Some of my favorite summer highlights;

– Millie holding a tarantula

– Wells and I chasing after the bunny who feasted on my petunias

– Chris and Crosby surprising me at work on my birthday

Summer came and like that, it was over. It always goes by so fast. Those cheesy sayings, “Time flies when you’re having fun.” or “The days are long but the years are short.” are infuriating because they are absolutely correct. I swear, having three kids speeds up the time even more. I’m already thinking ahead to next summer – Crosby will be walking, Millie will have a year of school under her belt, and Wells will be getting ready to start pre-k. Until then, they’ll grow and I’ll continue dreaming of summer.

Wells’ Speech Part 2

Wells’ Speech Part 2

Wells’ speech therapist’s contract was not being renewed by the Help Me Grow organization that Wells receives services. We were devastated to hear this because Wells had gotten comfortable with her. At our last session, she gave me a packet of information about a motor speech disability called, Apraxia. After working with Wells for six months, it was her professional opinion that I look into this with his next speech therapist. Huh? – I thought he was just a little behind…

Before meeting with his new therapist, I Googled Childhood Apraxia of Speech. I learned that it’s an uncommon disorder where Wells would have difficulty making accurate motor movements when speaking. In CAS, the brain struggles to develop plans for speech movement. With this disorder, the speech muscles aren’t weak, they just don’t perform normally because the brain has difficulty directing the movements. CAS is treated with speech therapy and the Help Me Grow program set Wells up with a speech therapist who has advanced training and expertise in Apraxia.

Jody, his new speech therapist, met with us to give Wells an evaluation. She heard the dropping of consonants, the inconsistency of speech patterns, and saw his frustration when we couldn’t understand what he was trying to say. She was quick to inform us that while CAS couldn’t be diagnosed until age four, Wells most certainly has a motor speech delay – something he won’t just grow out of. Therapy is the only treatment for CAS and we go two/three times a week.

When we repeat words how Wells pronounces them, back to him for example, “ickey” for Mickey, he tells us we’re saying it wrong. He knows how words are supposed to sound, he just can’t make his mouth do it. It’s heartbreaking to see him struggle. To speak correctly, Wells’ brain has to learn how to make plans that tell his speech muscles how to move his lips, jaw and tongue in ways that result in accurate sounds with normal speed and rhythm. He can make the “m” sound however, he cannot connect it so it sounds like “mmm” space “icky”.

In six months, Wells has mastered isolated consonant sounds “h”, “m”, “s”, “p”, “b”, “f”, “w”, and “sh” at the beginning of words. We are practicing those sounds with syllable combinations ie. “fa” and “moo”. Kinesthetic movements help Wells remember how to correctly manipulate his mouth. Right now, we are working on the word, “open”. He does not naturally put the “p” sound in the middle of the word. We practice by making a big, “o” with our arms and then move our hand under our chin like we’re blowing a kiss. When the words are broken down, Wells has more success.

Wells will no longer receive paid services through the Help Me Grow organization when he turns three. At three years old, children can receive disability services through their public school system (pre-k). We have decided to not enroll Wells in the pre-k program through our district. The school only offers a half-day service, four days out of the week and that does not work with our work schedules. To make sure Wells is supported with his speech needs, we will continue to see Jody and charge our health insurance for the visits.

Speech therapy at two years old : Wells often falls asleep in the car before we get to speech therapy. He runs down the hallway like Sonic, and counts the stairs when we leave. When he wears snow or rain boots, they often get in his way during floor activities so they usually get thrown off. Wells will randomly get into a yoga pose. If an animal is brought up, like a frog or bunny, he’ll act it out. It’s fun and I’m always proud of him.

Summer of 22

Summer of 22

Adventures from June-August; kinda like a list, more like a diary entry. A post to remember this summer.

We kicked off the summer with a trip to Louisville, Kentucky. We were visiting friends, Kristin and Kyle (Wells’ Godparents), and planned to see a botanical garden along the way however, it poured down rain. We changed plans to an indoor adventure instead. We stopped at the Louisville Slugger Museum to see the worlds largest baseball bat. The ivy on the wall and the hall of fame stars on the sidewalk were super cool. Millie picked out a pack of Chicago Cubs baseball cards and Wells loved swinging his blue, souvenir bat. We stayed the night with the Merkle’s, where the kids loved playing baseball in the basement with Uncle Kyle, and in the morning we left for the Cincinnati Zoo.

We used our Wonderfold Wagon at the zoo. There were a lot of hills so Chris was the one doing the pushing. Many people complimented our wagon and asked us questions about it. Millie and Wells have the freedom to move around while also being safe; I love it and wish we would’ve bought it sooner. We fed the giraffes expensive pieces of lettuce, ate at the food court, and saw the sifakas jumping around. Both kids love Fiona, the premature hippo who’s basically a celebrity now that Cincinnati needed some positive press after the death of Harambe (R.I.P).

The next weekend we went strawberry picking. I was inspired by a friends Instagram story; I never knew Ohio had strawberry fields. Chris has fond memories of strawberry picking as a kid and both Millie and Wells love to eat strawberries so I figured this was something fun we could do as a family. We were given two buckets and were told the best area for the ripest strawberries. We were surprised by how small they were compared to the strawberries we buy from the store. Wells was not interested in picking but he was interested in eating them! He sat down in the strawberry plants and turned the caboose of his khakis, pink. Millie was not enthused about touching the berries, especially the over-ripe ones that felt “squishy”.

Unfortunately, both Millie and Wells started this summer with a nasty cold; the snot was never ending. We seem to catch every germ. We wanted to play with friends and explore new places but we also wanted to keep everyone safe. Monday, Wells took his first bath in the sink. While Chris and I attempted a tile reno, I sat Wells on the counter to play in the sink water. Before I knew it, Wells had sat in the sink, fully clothed. I stripped him down and let him play in the water. On Tuesday, we roasted marshmallows using our tabletop fire pit. Neither kid enjoyed the taste of burnt marshmallows. Wednesday, we went to the thrift store and bought a water table, two ladles, and a new bathing suit for Millie. Wells tried to feed me octopus soup! We had a great time playing outside and eating strawberries! Thursday we ran errands, Millie had a fever, Aunt Lindsey came over, and Grandpa came into town. Friday we went to the library and signed up for the summer reading program. Wells very clearly said, “library”. I am so proud of how hard he’s working to communicate.

Here were some of their favorite reads:

No Pants by Jacob Grant

1, 2, 3, Jump! by Lisl H. Detlefsen

Goldfish on Vacation by Sally Lloyd-Jones

The Flower Man a wordless book by Mark Ludy

June went by entirely too fast. The kids enjoyed finger painting, chalking, and bubble blowing. We saw lots of family members at my cousin Carson’s graduation party and afterward both kids got to order their own pizza from Mod (Millie says she won’t be putting cucumber on her pizza again). We went to Hobby Lobby to get a decorative welcome mat for my mom who just bought a condo in Ohio and while I pushed Wells in the cart, he scared an old lady who was passing by! He said, “Ah!” and pointed at her as soon as she turned down our aisle. He’s a rascal. My in-laws came to town and we went out to eat at BrewDog to celebrate the closing of their new home. (The kids are getting ready to have all of their grandparents in Ohio!) Millie ate a vegan hamburger meal and Wells ate a soft pretzel. Wells enjoyed playing ladder toss, outside, after the meal.

July started with COVID. I went to a worship concert, unmasked, and another woman I went with tested positive after, too. The worst part of it was we were sick during the Fourth of July and my cousin Donaven, who’s currently serving our country in the Navy, came home to visit. Thankfully, we still got to see him (from six feet away). The kids watched Red, White, and Boom on the T.V while eating banana splits in their sleeping bags. Our town set off fireworks at the local high school that we could see from our backyard, too!

We have season passes to the Franklin Park Conservatory and explored the children’s garden with Lindsey, Logan, and Ben. The kids enjoyed pushing the hula hoops down the hill, watching and performing puppet shows with mangy-looking puppets, playing restaurant with the plastic food in the mud house, and pretending like they were birds making a nest of sticks. Wells spent time at the koi pond watching the fish. He was fascinated by the toy train. Wells was apprehensive about wading in the sandstone creek and wouldn’t let go of my hand but he grew confident and explored on his own.

Food competitions are regularly watched in our home – we’re currently undertaking Master Chef. We decided to have a baking competition of our own. Millie, Wells, and I mixed the cupcake batter and of course, they licked the beaters. We’re vegan. No raw eggs were consumed. Mills were topped with hot pink icing and Wells’ were blue. Of course the icing stained their lips and teeth. I let them add sprinkles and we tasted both cupcakes. It was decided that Millie’s tasted better because her sprinkles were less crunchy than the ones that Wells used. The cupcakes were served on Mickey and Minnie Mouse plastic party plates that the kids wouldn’t let me not buy at the store.

I got the feeling like we weren’t doing enough with the kids this summer. (Now that I’m typing everything out I can see that was absurd and just my anxiety.) I think because last summer we spent a week at the beach – financially, that wasn’t in the plans this year, I still wanted to do something special. I looked for activities relatively close so that we could plan a day trip. I had friends go visit the Ark Encounter in Kentucky and really love it. Chris was on board with the trip so we left on a rainy, Saturday morning. What better weather to visit the Ark? The car ride was three hours long but the kids rode perfectly. We took Noah’s Ark books to read along the way and we ate Tim Hortons; they love the birthday sprinkled Timbits.

When we got to the Ark, we had to take a charter bus to get on location. Wells thought he was hot stuff getting to sit in his own bus seat. Millie was so excited to see the beautiful, bright rainbow arch (Gods promise) entering the complex. The Ark was insanely massive; bigger than I could’ve ever imagined (the dimensions are actually listed in the Bible). I thought the kids would be overwhelmed by the size but they were excited to see the different exhibits inside. Millie thought the ancient animals (wax models) in the cages were creepy.

There was a petting zoo on location with lots of goats. Millie did not touch the goats (I don’t blame her – poop pellets were everywhere.) We got to watch a live, animal show with a scorpion (which glows under a black light – who knew?) a sugar glider (which made us miss Cooper), and a pig named, Festus that the kids got in stuffed form at the gift shop on the way out. The buffet on location was delicious and super accommodating to our vegan diet. There was a really awesome playground but Amelia got knocked over and the fun was over. Both kids fell asleep as soon as they were strapped in their car seats and slept the entire way home.

The next week of summer vacation was packed with fun activities. Millie and Wells made crown crafts from the library and decorated them with gems and stickers. We went to the pool and Millie went under the water with MawMaw (she did not like it). We took a trip to the Columbus Zoo with my friend Katey and saw the elephant baby, Frankie for the first time (He was so fuzzy!). Uncle Nick’s girlfriend came to town and we all went out to eat at CapCity Diner; it was our first time eating there, they gave us a private room, and the food was delicious!

Our last weekend of July was spent in Ligonier, Pennsylvania with our friends, and Millie’s Godparents, Jane and Todd and their two children, Maisey and Luca. Of course Mille and Wells were excited about Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood but they were most anxious to see their friends. The night before we were supposed to leave, Wells tripped in his crocs while helping me water the neighbors flowers. I could tell by his cry that he was in a lot of pain. He wasn’t bearing any weight on his left foot. Immediately, I knew he could have a toddlers fracture. We let him sleep it off and examined him the next morning. He was putting weight on the injured foot but was still limping. We decided to go forward with our PA trip and keep him mostly in the stroller. If his foot got worse, we’d have no choice but to get it checked out.

To start our road-trip, we grabbed Tim Hortons and I entertained the kids by putting Mickey Mouse characters on Chris’ seat (it’s the little things). Once we got there and met up with our friends, we went to the water park and the girls immediately ran to the kiddie splash area. Maisey wasn’t afraid to put her head under the water but Millie wasn’t trying it. Maise ended up drinking a lot of the water and was sick later in the evening, poor girl. Wells and I ended up standing under a bucket that poured an intense amount of water on my back. We had a great time swimming together. Luca dirtied a diaper and we put on dry clothes to enjoy the amusement park.

We grabbed a soft pretzel and some lemonade before watching the end of a Daniel Tiger show. There was a meet and greet afterward with Katerina and Daniel – Wells stayed on my hip and Millie was just curious enough to wave to them from afar. We rode on Trolley through the neighborhood (Millie informed Maisey that all the characters were made out of cardboard) and the weather shifted. Just before the sky opened up, we ran back to the parking lot and managed to stay dry while it stormed the rest of the afternoon.

After a thirty minute drive, we checked into our hotel. We met up with Jayne, Todd, Maisey, and Luca for dinner at a restaurant called, Sharkys. Wells loved their aquarium and we loved the food. That night, we all changed into our pjs and played games in the hotel lobby. The kids exchanged gifts, colored My Little Ponies, played with clay, ate sprinkled popcorn, had a dance party; it was awesome.

In the morning, we shared a breakfast table with the DiMascio’s and said our goodbyes. We left for the Pittsburgh Children’s Museum where they had a Daniel Tiger exhibit. The exhibit was amazing; it looked just like the show had come to life. We saw some of the original puppets from Mr.Rodgers’ Neighborhood and Mr.Rodgers’ red sweater. Wells enjoyed building Daniels neighborhood with blocks. Millie added a leaf to the “thank you” tree. The kids loved the interactive clock shop and the musical radio.

The rest of the Pittsburgh Children’s Museum was also loads of fun for the kids. Millie climbed up a super tall rope web, they launched balls on a track with a pulley system, they made car ramps, and created a musical assembly line. Wells and I went into a room at an angle. I literally ran us both into a wall (my knee caught the brunt of it.) Millie loved playing with the sand art and Wells liked the seesaw that blew bubbles. We grabbed a snack at the cafe before we left; Wells loved the bite-sized pancakes. The yellow bridges leaving Pittsburgh were cool. We definitely will visit PA again.

August was a blur. I started to have back-to-school meetings and by the 22nd we were all in. I tried to make each day we had left together, special. We visited the Columbus Zoo with my dad; the kids always have a great time with Papa. He rode on the carousel and bought them blue and pink cotton candy. Wells tried to feed the baby gorilla popcorn and the baby fell backwards! It was so sweet. We went to the Ohio State Fair with Chris’ parents (Grandma and Grandpa), his brother (Uncle Nick), and my friend Shauna. Both kids enjoyed riding on the rides and eating pineapple whip! We even watched a pig race. We swam a couple more times at Mawmaw’s pool; Millie was brave and went down the water slide! At home, we made cement garden stones, played with modo (a fragrance free play-dough), baked banana bread, and completed craft kits.

For my 30th birthday, Chris took me to Chicago. This was the first time that I spent a night away from Wells and we were gone for more than 48 hours. Chris’ parents stayed at our house and we FaceTimed them often. Both kids slept well for them! I was so impressed. My babies are growing up and it’s hard to believe that they won’t stay 4 and 2 forever.

But I Get Up Again

But I Get Up Again

Maw yelled to the kids, “Stay off the rocks around the pond; they’re wobbly!”

On an unusually warm day in early March, Millie and Wells were playing on my grandmas patio. Wells was finding pebbles (Presumably putting them in his mouth. Once, he spit out four rocks into my hand.) and Millie was rearranging a fairy garden as I tidied up their things, preparing to leave for the day. We waved goodbye to Maw as I backed out of her carport. I called Chris to meet us at the park on his way home but not five minute later, I called him back to tell him that both kids fell asleep. Babies sleeping in car seats always look so scrunched.

Unbeknown to me, Maw decided to leaf blow her patio. Without following her own advice, “Stay off the rocks around the pond; they’re wobbly!”, she stood on the rocks to blow away fallen leaves. I received a phone call from my mom, “Don’t freak out.” Maw was on her way to the hospital.

While leaf blowing, Maw stood on a wobbly rock and fell onto her hip, precisely on the edge of her patio step. She turned herself onto to her stomach and army crawled back into the house where she contacted my uncle, trying to avoid an ambulance ride. While she waited for him to arrive, she crawled herself into the kitchen and ate a lemon cookie. Who’s grandma breaks their hip and struggles into the kitchen to curb her sweet tooth?!

My uncle did not feel like he could safely lift my grandmother so begrudgingly, Maw went to the hospital in a squad. I was desperate to be with her but due to COVID restrictions, only one person could accompany her during her stay. Maw refused pain medication. She was taken for an MRI where it was determined she had a fractured hip bone. The next day, she received a full hip replacement.

Thank God the surgery went well.

The next day, Maw went home to recover. I was in disbelief with how quickly she was discharged. Maw had two weeks of around the clock, family supervision. I stayed over one night, Wells came with me because I was still breastfeeding, and that helped to lift her spirits. It was difficult to see her in pain as she maneuvered her way on and off the bed. I ordered her a hip kit that had long levers to help her with her independence without having to bend at the waist. I also installed a toilet lift so she didn’t have to squat down to use the restroom. She had physical therapists come to her house and they were extremely kind. “Most seventy year olds haven’t left the bed yet and you’re getting around so well!”

As Maw was healing, she also felt guilty for leaving me without childcare. She watched both babes while Chris and I work and with this falling accident, she was out of commission for at least six weeks. I called thirteen child care facilities, desperate to find a reputable establishment that would accept my kids in the middle of the school year, and most could not accommodate both children. Finally, I found a school that could take both kids however, they were almost $3K a month – completely out of our budget.

We were incredibly blessed with beautiful people willing to help us during this stressful time. My friend Lindsey was available to watch the kids on her days off and my friend Shauna babysat the kids while she worked from my couch. My friend and co-worker Amy spoke to her in-home childcare provider who was able to watch my kids on Tuesdays and Thursdays. She was affordable, an easy commute, and had glowing recommendations from other teachers who trusted her care. She was reliable and kind. This was a God send.

A week into our new childcare schedule (Chris watched the kids while he worked from home on Monday and Friday, Tuesday and Thursday the kids went to Rhondas, and Wednesday was a wildcard.) we noticed bite marks on Wells. One on his arm and one on his foot. I noticed that the size of the bite mark was small but there were a lot of teeth. It was confirmed that a little girl with dwarfism was eating Wells up. We found out that she had done this to other kids before and with a new baby brother at home, she started biting again. Another bite happened on his belly and one on his leg. His parents were mortified. Wells learned to say, “No bite!” Which came out as, “O ite”. They actually became sweet friends.

Millie loved playing with the children all day. There were two girls her age; they’d put on tattoos, draw pictures, make necklaces, and put on singing performances like JoJo Siwa. Millie would help me pack their lunches the night before; picking out what fruits and vegetables she wanted included. For breakfast, I would put a pack of pop tarts in Millie’s lunch bag and it was her job to share one with Wells. Millie’s social interactions confirmed for me that she was ready for preschool in the fall (more on that in a later post).

Rhonda was so great with our Vegan lifestyle. If there was a birthday celebration, she would make sure there were dairy-free cupcakes for my kids. She gave every child an Easter basket and ours had vegan treats and thoughtful, personalized gifts. The kids noticed that others were eating chicken nuggets for lunch so Millie mentioned that they eat vegan “chicky nugs” at home. Rhonda bought them and kept them stocked in the freezer. It was extremely comforting knowing the sitter was accepting of our dietary needs.

Since starting childcare outside of our home, our family has never been more sick. Someone has had a snotty nose, sore throat, fever, goopy eyes – you name it, since March. We were in and out of doctors appointments every other week; amoxicillin for ear infections, two different eye drops, Tylenol Fever Reducer, Tylenol Cold and Cough. We had a fully stocked pharmacy in our medicine cabinet. Anytime I would try to plan something fun for us to do on the weekend, Millie would spike a fever and Wells would have snot hanging from his nose. We rotated viruses around the house. The germs from childcare were worse than my first year teaching (and I thought that was a kick to the immune system). I’m praying that Millie will have some antibodies to help her with the germs she’ll be around in pre-K.

Wells’ second birthday party was postponed – if we had the party on its scheduled date, it would have been the day Maw got home from surgery. A month after the party was originally supposed to be held, we threw Wells a shark themed birthday and Maw was there to help us celebrate. Maw didn’t let her hip keep her from the kids during the holidays. Millie and I went over to Maw’s house for Saint Patrick’s Day and we decorated shamrock cookies with green glitter and crafted a clover garland out of toilet paper rolls. For Easter, we went to Maw’s community celebration where the kids got to hunt for eggs and win door prizes. It was fun for the children but I was concerned about Maw getting hurt; she could have fallen down, gotten pushed over by a kid, tripped. etc. My anxiety was high.

Three months later and Maws hip healed. She was diligent with her therapy and put in the hard work to feel better. She has a gnarly scar. Her knee is giving her trouble but the hip surgeon mentioned that her knee locked up during the surgery – it could be something she gets work on down the road. She watched a video of a hip replacement on FaceBook and the force that was used to hammer the joint in place could have very well been what affected her knee. Wells will continue to need childcare in the fall and we will split the week between Maw and Rhonda. This will allow Maw to schedule appointments during the week and some much earned rest time after running after Wells.

Weekend Getaway

Weekend Getaway

Chris had a week off of work before he started his new job at Boeing and to spend some quality, family time together, I planned us a two-day mini getaway. Through Groupon, I booked a night at Great Wolf Lodge for $119 (I was amazed at what was included for that price. That’s how much a regular hotel room would cost and this one had an indoor water park!). I packed up the food, buckled the kids into the Jeep, and when I checked our reservation to GPS the address to the hotel, I realized I booked the wrong one. (Insert face palm here.)

We were supposed to be headed south for one hour however, I booked our reservation at the Great Wolf Lodge two hours north of us! I quickly called Great Wolf’s customer service and they were extremely accommodating. Within ten minutes we had everything figured out; I cancelled my incorrect reservation and made a new reservation at the correct lodge. Thankfully, this resort had rooms available and because of COVID, they were not charging cancelation fees.

Walking into the lobby at Great Wolf was like entering a log cabin mansion. There were carved tree statues and signs, taxidermied animals, log stumps for chairs, etc. Ropes led the way to check-in and because it was a weekday after 4pm, I walked right up to the counter. We were given wristbands that doubled as our our room keys and a schedule of all the children’s activities at the lodge. I met Chris back in the parking lot and we lugged the kids and our overnight bags up to our room. The room was decorated like a hunting lodge; antlers as light fixtures and moose prints on the carpet. The room itself was incredibly spacious. It had a sitting area, a table and chairs, a mini fridge, and a microwave. The kids were so excited to be someplace new. Millie picked out her bed, our room had two queens, and we got our bathing suits on for a night in the water park!

It was 6pm when we walked the kids down the hall in their hooded towels, looking like baby Jedi, to go to the water park. The children we passed were melting down, “I don’t want to leave the pool!” Chris and I nodded at the parents for emotional support. Every family there looked like us; frazzled, tending to children’s needs, and over weight (No judgement – I felt comfortable letting my stretch marks show!). We felt like we found our people. Many families were leaving the water park when we were just arriving. We were grateful to be getting there at a less populated time.

As we walked into to the water park, we were confronted with humidity and the smell of chlorine, both of which we welcomed compared to the frigid, weather outside. The sound of rushing water and children shouting made it hard to hear Wells saying, “wow” as he was taking in his surroundings; I could read his lips and paired with the astonished facial expression, it felt like a mom win. We started in water that was knee deep and it was the perfect temperature. Millie saw the slides and fearlessly slid down them with Wells and Me at the bottom to catch her from going under. Reluctantly, Wells went down the slide but after he realized it was fun, we couldn’t tear him away.

It was nice to be able to let the kids play in water without coating them in sunscreen. Wells loved the water squirting out from the fountains in the floor. He would put his foot overtop of the holes and blast himself and others with the water pressure. Millie didn’t want to go down any of the big slides and we didn’t push her to. Both kids liked the warmth of the “hot springs” which we called, the hot tub for babies. Wells laughed each time he felt the warm water (Maw said that meant he was probably peeing). Hindsight, I have read some disgusting facts about hot tubs and there were way too many strangers sharing that water.

I was so anxious watching Millie and Wells play on the water structures. The bigger kids, water buckets spilling over, slippery stair steps – it was enough to give me a heart attack but both kids loved the adventure and independence. There were basketball hoops and balls and we enjoyed passing the basketball through the water to each other. Millie and Wells were not fond of the waves in the wave pool but that didn’t surprise me because both my kids have a tendency to get motion sick, like me. I remember feeling motion sick as a child treading water in the wave pool at Wyandotte Lake, I’m aging myself; it’s Zoombeezi Bay now.

After two hours of playing, their lips were turning a light purple hue and their toes and fingers were shriveled. We went back to the room, changed into dry clothes, and went down the the arcade to play some games. Chris loaded money onto an arcade card and the kids went wild. Millie and Wells got to play a game together where they sat in a firetruck and used squirt guns as hoses to put out fires. They also got to ride on little motorcycles and race. The tickets they compiled were enough to get some smarties, a package of car stickers, and a mermaid pen (it was the last mermaid pen in the bunch and Millie was very excited about it).

As we walked upstairs to head back to our room, we heard music coming from the lobby. We stopped in and joined a nighttime dance party! It was so funny, Wells walked straight into a group of kids and started dancing without a care. When the dancing was over, Wells decided he was going to get on the stage. I chased him down and in the meantime, some boys with bubble wands were putting their bubbles over Mills head. She was showing some annoyance with getting soapy and Wells saw this and decided he didn’t like what was happening. He grabbed Millie’s hand and walked her away from the boys after giving them a serious, baby babbling talking-to.

Before we went back to our room, we let the kids get rock candy at the candy store. Of course Wells chose blue and Millie, pink. The store looked like Willy Wonka’s factory. We walked back to our room and ate a late night snack before bed; potato chips and Oreos. The bed felt sandy from all the crumbs that landed on the blankets. Mill chose to sleep with her dad and Wells slept with me. He dream-fed basically all night so my sleep sucked and morning came early. Bananas, grapes, and vegan sausage sandwiches were for breakfast.

Checkout was at 11am. Chris packed up our things; our singular suitcase full of the clothes we no longer needed. He packed a tote bag with our water park needs and clothes to change into after. (This was the only part of the trip that I did not enjoy because of the hustle and bustle of trying to check out in time. Not to mention, changing ourselves and the kids at the water park was chaotic.) If we do this again, we will not go to the water park on the day we leave.

The kids were just as excited to be at the water park the second time as they were the first. We met a nice family in the hot springs that reminded me of the Newport Aquarium only thirty minutes away from the resort. While the kids ate lunch on beach chairs, I bought tickets for Wells to see some sharks. Changing the kids from their wet bathing suits into dry clothes in the damp, resort bathroom was not fun. Also, because it was going to be freezing outside, we were changing into sweaters in the heat of the humid park and that felt gross. Walking out into the thirty degree weather actually felt refreshing.

Both kids fell asleep in the car on the way to the aquarium. Finding parking in a new place is always stressful for Chris and me but once we did, we woke up the kids, and made our way across the Levee. We found the aquarium and I was irritated before we walked through the doors; the listed operating hours differed from the automated machine I listened to before I bought our tickets. We had less time to explore the aquarium than I expected and when I spoke to the ticket office about the discrepancy, they admitted that they had not updated their automated service and the manager refunded us half our money back for the inconvenience. I was impressed by the customer service and was ready to have a good time with Millie and Wells at the aquarium.

The fish in this aquarium were unlike any we’d ever seen; different species of seahorses, prehistoric-air-breathing fish, stingray sharks, etc. The most breathtaking moment happened when a giant sea turtle made eye contact with Wells and started swimming to him. We were the only ones in that exhibit and it was magical. We were lucky to catch this moment on video. Months later, Wells still watches the sea turtle video with amazement.

One of the exhibits had a coloring station where you would color a fish, scan it into a machine, and your colored fish would show up, swimming on a digital aquarium screen. It was really cool! I colored a fish with eighth notes but the technology mirrored the image and the note heads were backward (that still bugs me a month later). A little girl at the penguin exhibit asked Millie her name, and Mill proudly stated her full name and her age. She held up the correct number of fingers and then she asked the girl her name. The little girl introduced herself as Ry-Ry. Wells put his hand on his chest and very clearly said, “Wells”. I looked over at Chris and started to tear up. Not only did he understand to introduce himself in that social setting, but he did it with such clarity and confidence. My whole heart welled with pride.

Both babes slept the two hour car ride home. I was exhausted from the trip but managed to prepare and eat dinner, bathe the kids, unpack the over night bag, and crawl into bed by ten. It was difficult waking up for work the next morning but the trip happening mid-week made the weekend come quick. Millie was so excited to call the grandparents and tell them all about her experience. She wants them all to be with us the next time we go to Great Wolf Lodge. A quick vacation with lasting memories.

We Forget

We Forget

I don’t know why our brains can’t remember the details of the good stuff. Actually, I do. I learned about it at a professional development meeting on trauma and stress. I hate staying late at work and being late to Millie, Wells, and Mawmaw. Alas, I did pick up one thing from the seemingly useless meeting; our brains remember the traumatic memories to best protect us and because our brain doesn’t need to protect us from the good stuff, it doesn’t retain it. What a load of crap.

Tonight’s good stuff is laying on the couch, way too late, on the Eve of a snow day. Wells is next to me, dream feeding, peacefully. His foot isn’t any bigger than my hand. His little body is so soft and squishable. I feel his legs and arms lay over mine. I listen to him breathe. I hold his hand and rub his back all while thinking about his future, who he will become, and how I fit in it. I pray over him and kiss him and tell him I love him.

As much as I want it to be, this blog post will never be the real thing. When I read this again, it’ll be because I’m missing my babies. I’m sad for future me. I’m sad because I know that I will want this time back. But for now, I sign off to live in the moment I have, no matter how fleeting it is, to hold my baby while he sleeps because my children are the greatest blessings of my entire life.

Speech Delay

Speech Delay

A cognitive speech delay refers to the condition of children whose speech function is significantly below the expected average for their age.

Wells was such a ham at the pediatricians office for his 18 month appointment. He proudly walked onto the scale, waved at every nurse in the hallway, and peeked his head into another room to say, “hi” to the doctor. As we waited for our visit, I was given a behavior and intellect survey. I quickly became aware of what the average 18 month old could do and what my son could not. “Does your child put two words together to make a short phrase?” We clap when Wells says half of a word correctly. “Does your child say 50+ words?” Does “eee” count as a word? I looked over at Wells, sitting with his ankles crossed on the table, and my eyes begin to well.

His doctor reassured me that because he’s male and has a talkative older sister, we shouldn’t be worried. “It just hasn’t clicked for him yet.” I asked about a speech therapist however, that was not an option for Wells because he had no other signs of delayed development. She said, “He’s content; it’ll come. Model speech. Incorporate more sign language and give him choices.” I was told at his two year appointment we will reevaluate, which put a timeline on us, and that pressure was heavy.

Wells’ hearing has been checked. When he was born he didn’t pass his first hearing exam in the hospital; he had womb fluid in his ears. Before we left the hospital, Wells passed his hearing test. At eighteen months, Wells understands what we ask of him; cognitively, he is fine. Wells has great social skills; he plays with his sister and other children. Wells might not speak words yet but he communicates through pointing, body language, sign language, and grunts. Every adult is, “mama” right now (which absolutely destroys Chris because he still doesn’t say, “dada”). When Wells would call Chris, “mama” Chris would respond, “No. Say, ‘dada. Da-da’”. After doing some research, we learned saying, “no” to his vocalizations could actually hinder him from attempting to speak.

Following some advice from my best friend, Lindsey, I began following some vocal pathologists and speech therapists on social media. Watching their stories and reading their posts made me feel like we weren’t alone with Wells’ speech delay. A particular post caught my eye that read, Early Intervention; not “wait” and see, check and see. The post was about support for children 18-36 months old with cognitive delays. Our pediatrician said that insurance would not cover speech therapy until he turned two however, this program was state funded as long as the child qualified. I decided to fill out the questionnaire and I received a phone call within a week to schedule a virtual evaluation.

For the virtual evaluation, Millie got doughnuts with Mawmaw so Chris and my full attention could be on Wells. Signed into the Zoom meet was the Help Me Grow service coordinator, OT (occupational therapist), and a speech pathologist. Chris held the phone and I played on the floor with Wells with the toys that HMG recommended; blocks, Little People, books, Melissa and Doug knob puzzles, balls, etc. The therapists asked questions about his daily routine and his skills. We were all so impressed with how much Wells was showing off. He acknowledged the specialists, he stacked blocks 12 high, he identified colors and body parts, he jumped like a frog, and made animal sounds!

The specialists were using the Bell Curve to determine if he would qualify for state-funded therapy. He scored extremely high in the motor skills and comprehension categories. Once his speech score was included, it dropped his score significantly but not enough to qualify for state funded help. I was devastated. Without hesitation, I began advocating for Wells and the help that I knew he needed. I mentioned that we had taken advice from a speech therapist that I work with and that we were not seeing improvement in his speech. I reiterated the frustration we feel, especially Wells, when he can’t communicate his needs. Thankfully, the speech pathologist on the video conference heard me. She said, “My clinical opinion trumps the Bell Curve score. It is my opinion that Wells needs intervention in expressive speech and I will take him on my case load.”

The next step was to meet with HMG to compose an IFSP (Individual Family Service Plan). An IFSP is provided based on the concerns of the family and the child’s needs. The plan must include: an assessment of a child’s present levels of development, a statement of goals, support services that will be put in place to achieve those goals, date services will begin, and the identification of the service coordinator. A re-evaluation is done every 6 months. Wells’ goals were to expand his expressive vocabulary and to use family names ie. Mia, Dada, Papa etc.

We were able to schedule in-home meetings, twice a month. Wells’ speech therapist’s name is Katie and she is extremely kind. We meet around Wells’ nap time so he’s not been in the best of moods however, she lets him draw in her planner and he loves that. She listens to Wells while he plays and gives Chris and I ways to better communicate with him. Our first assignment was, “imitation”; getting Wells to copy the faces we made and then asking him to repeat a word. We also were encouraged to sing with him and let him fill in the words. Katie also told us to stop saying, “Wells say …” and since we’ve stopped putting him on the spot, he’s picked up more words. Because Wells is so active and advanced in his motor skills, Ms. Katie recommend we add repetitive words to movement like, “One, two, three, jump!” Verbal routines and elimination ie. “ready, set, go” multiple times then “ready, set” and he should fill in the blank with “go”. After a month of speech therapy, Wells seems more confident in trying new words.

Millie and Wells met a little girl while watching the penguins swim at the Newport Aquarium. Millie introduced herself right away, full name and age. The little girl introduced herself. Wells puts both hands on his chest and said, “Wells”. I got tears in my eyes; I was so proud of him. He knew what the girls were saying and without being prompted, he joined the conversation. He also has started babbling. It’s not often but it is encouraging because he is using his tongue, “dee di do do da da”. When he uses his little voice he has the sweetest smile on his face – he knows it pleases us.

Here is a running list of Wells’ said words (not all consonants are there but he attempts) :

  • Mama
  • Mawmaw
  • Gam
  • Eat
  • Couch
  • Hi
  • Bye
  • Bean
  • Corn
  • Drink
  • Wells
  • Bath
  • Mickey
  • Blue
  • Red
  • Yellow
  • Pink
  • Bluey
  • One, Two, Three, Four, Five
  • Green
  • Eyes
  • Teeth
  • Nose
  • Mouth
  • Toes
  • Read
  • Run
  • Mine
  • No
  • Beep
  • Warm
  • Cold
  • Hot
  • Home
  • Mouse
  • Up
  • Down
  • Out
  • Yeah
  • Clean
  • Swing
  • Please
  • Slide
  • Phone
  • Crying
  • Quack
  • Meow
  • Car
  • Yum
  • Cream
  • Candy
  • Ice
  • Ready

Everyone has an opinion on Wells’ delay and the resources we are giving him. I’ve heard, “Once he starts talking you won’t get him to shut up!” This comment was not helpful. When we are dealing with Wells completely melting down when he can’t communicate his needs, his verbal skills when he’s older does not help him now. “Boys are late talkers, he’s fine.” My son is more than fine. He is beautiful, healthy, and intelligent. He is getting help for a diagnosed delay. “It could be worse.” Chris and I are very blessed and we are aware that Wells’ speech delay is a mild impairment compared to other children who have more severe delays. We also know that this is our reality and we are trying our best to provide Wells with the best possible resources to be successful with speech and will continue to aide him with any other aspect of life.

Summer 2021

Summer 2021

I write with Wells sleeping next to me. I listen to him breathe and I thank God for my beautiful, healthy children. I don’t want to forget the memories we made this summer; when Millie’s thirty, asking me questions about her childhood, I pray I’ll remember but if my memory fails, there’s always this blog.

We would sleep in every morning, all three of us. Wells was still breastfeeding so he’d sleep next to me and I’d kiss his little hands. His feet would curl up and rest on my stomach. That boy would sleep all day if I laid next to him. Millie would wake up to the sounds of her daddy getting ready for work, come into our room still half asleep, and crawl into our bed for another hour or two. Millie insists on putting her own toothpaste on her toothbrush and she received a fantastic dental report at her first dentist appointment this summer.

Both kids enjoyed playing on Mawmaw’s back patio this summer. Millie loved redecorating the fairy garden and Wells loved to destroy it. Maw had a faux pond made of blue stones that Wells would put in his mouth, sometimes three at a time. Maw would fill up a plastic, clear tote with water and they would splash and play; Wells’ head being in the 100th percentile made him a bit top heavy so his head would go under the water anytime he would bend over the edge. Maw bought guest passes for her neighborhood’s pool and we able to enjoy that this summer. The first time we went, Wells stuck his index finger out to a wasp who was trying to escape the water and it repeatedly stung him. It swelled up pretty bad but maw got him some children’s Benadryl and it was fine. Millie made some new friends and even braved the water slide by the end of the summer.

The trampoline park was a good time for the kids. We went once with Lindsey and her boys and once with Papa. Wells couldn’t really bounce on the trampolines but he enjoyed running around. He didn’t like keeping his socks on. One older lady saw him and said, “He looks like a football player!” Both kids liked throwing the balls. Millie met a worker there named Isla that she referred to as her “big sister”. Isla was sweet with Mill and played with her on the trampolines.

We went to the zoo many times this summer. Twice with Lindsey, Logan, and Ben. Once with Mawmaw, and once with Papa. Giraffes are Millie’s favorite animal and Wells loves the elephants (he can buzz his lips together to make a trumpet sound). When we went to see the elephants, I held Wells in front of Hank, the male elephant. Wells held out his elephant stuffy like he was giving it to Hank, it was so sweet. Millie did an excellent job being brave and riding the camel this summer. Both babes rode on the carousel; Mill wasn’t a fan of the up and down motion of the horse and poor Wells was terrified when we started moving (he was shaking, wasn’t breathing, his eyes were wide, and he was turning red). I held him until he was ready to get back on the horse and by the end of the ride, he didn’t want to get off!

Zoombeezie Bay was an unforgettable outing. This adventure with Lindsey was planned “day of” and it was doomed from the start. Dublin, Ohio had a 15% chance of rain but we figured we’d chance it and maybe less people would be there. I had one swim diaper. Lindsey forgot her stroller. We went straight to the kids splash area; my kids loved the slides but Lindsey’s boys were not into it. Wells amazed me with how brave he was getting wet and maneuvering around the other children. We enjoyed the water for maybe an hour before the sky opened and it down poured. While we waited for the storm to pass we watched the stingrays in their new exhibit. Millie did not want to touch the stingrays. The rain continued despite the iPhone forecast so we saw some more indoor animals (we called it the ghetto zoo because this enclosure had crows and cats lol). As we were heading towards the exit, there was a seal show about to begin. The kids really enjoyed the seals. Wells chose to sit by himself on the stairs and he clapped along appropriately which was cute. We got drenched on the way back to our cars – I used napkins from my glove compartment to wipe myself off. Millie loves to say, “We’re going to Zoombeezi Bay!” when playing make believe so maybe for the children, it wasn’t so bad after all.

Going to the Franklin Park Conservatory was always a good time. We went many times; Maw, Lindsey, Logan, and Ben, Katey, and we had a “girls only” play date with Brooke (a friend of mine from work) and Mya her four year old daughter. The kids loved to explore the children’s garden. They climbed on rope webs, played in the water, made music with sticks, watered the flowers, played in the mud house, had puppet shows – Mill used the owl puppet and told a joke, “Who turned the owl upside down?” She held the puppet upside down and the answer was the owl! It was so cute seeing her come up with a joke like that on the spot. Wells fed the Coy fish his puff snacks. They both loved seeing the banana plant and climbing to the top of the tree house. They enjoyed watching the toy train with Charlie Brown characters on it.

We moved into a new house this summer. This is the third house that Millie has lived in, in her three years of life. Maw watched the kids while we moved the majority of our things into the new home. Millie slept in bed with us the first two nights we were in the house. When we did our final walk through of our previous house, Millie was with us and had to go potty. “Mommy, I don’t remember where the potty is in this house!” Both babes adjusted to the new home just fine.

We went to the Outer Banks with Chris’ family for a week vacation. Instead of driving straight there, we broke up the drive and stayed a night with my mom in Virginia. From there, it was a four hour drive to the beach that we caravanned down with Chris’ family. We made a stop at a farmers market along the way and picked up some corn on the cob and blueberries for the children. The man sitting on the porch cut up a peach with his pocket knife and gave us slices to try with the dirt still on it. Both children traveled well, between downloaded episodes of Pete the Cat and the Chipmunks movie, they slept, and ate snacks to pass the time.

We stayed in a beach house with his parents, his grandparents, his aunt, his uncle and his family. Our room was on the first floor and together we shared a king sized bed. Wells was particularly fond of the bed because he could reach the light switch. He thought he was cool stuff, “eee” every time he flipped them. Wells also would wave at the pelican and lizard statues every time we’d use the staircase. Wells wanted to be included in everything; corn hole, bocce ball. He was overwhelmed by the beach initially but once he experienced the waves and the sand over the course of the week, he warmed up to it. Millie was still hesitant to swim on her own but she loved jumping into the pool to her daddy. She got to bury Michael’s girlfriend in the sand, make a sand castle with her daddy, and fly a kite on the beach with her grandpa.

Thankfully, I didn’t watch any shark documentaries before we went. Apparently, the sharks are attacking much closer to the NC shore and Chris took Mill out into the ocean many times to his waist level. (Definitely won’t be doing that next summer.) Since the beach, Wells has been particularly fond of sharks; he wants to watch them on tv and makes growling sounds when he sees one. He got a Baby Shark Outer Banks shirt and every time he wears it, Millie sings the song, “Do do do do”. On a rainy day, we took the kids to the aquarium in Manteo and they had a blast. Wells would wave at the fish and Millie loved the interactive touch screens. Grandpa bought Wells a baby shark sing along book from the gift shop – which continues to annoy us months later.

Our last summer hoorah was a trip to PA on Labor Day weekend. We went to an amusement park called, Idlewild that has Daniel Tigers Neighborhood attractions. Millie wore her Daniel tiger shirt and brought along her character stuffies. We got there just in time for a performance so we found seats in the shade and waited for Daniels appearance. Like the wind leaving a balloon, gone was Mill’s excitement upon seeing, “big head Daniel”. She hid behind my back peering over my shoulder for the remainder of the show. Wells chose to sit by himself, just like he did at the seal show, and watched curiously. At the end of the show, we all took a picture with Daniel and seriously, he must have been 6 foot 5 in that costume. When you watch Daniel on TV he’s supposed to be like 5 years old. What five year old could start for the Chicago Bulls?

We rode on an interactive trolley ride and both kids liked that. The characters along the trail were made out of cardboard and Mill did not let that detail slide. We found Daniels house (also made out of cardboard) and Millie was afraid to knock on the door, but not Wells. Wells particularly loved the children’s only trolley ride. He sat across from Millie and through the windows, we could see them holding hands. Wells’ arm rested on the window sill and Chris and I laughed at how grown he looked. We stayed the night in a hotel and ate breakfast in bed the next morning.

Things I’ll miss most from this summer:

– taking walks with the kids and my dad

– watching the new season of Bluey, listening to both kids sing the intro

– Wells’ love for corn on the cob

– knowing when I went to sleep that the next day I’d get to spend it with my children all over again

Pandemic Parenting

Pandemic Parenting

On March 3rd 2020, I delivered Wells with my husband, grandmother, father, and photographer in the room. If I would have had him on his due date, just two weeks later, I would have had to birth him alone. While we packed up our bags from our hospital stay, breaking news declared a mask mandate in Chicago and we feared Ohio would be next. We asked my nurse for masks; “I’m sorry, we are down to our last two boxes on this floor.” Chris immediately regret discarding his mask from labor and delivery.

My mom planned to stay with us for six weeks; helping with Millie and the housework while I focused on healing and bonding with Wells. Chris didn’t get any paternity leave so my moms help was a Godsend. A week after we came home from the hospital, the government shut down the state boarders around New York; my mom couldn’t stay with us indefinitely if Ohio chose to follow suit. Selfishly, I wanted my mom to stay and help but alas, my mom went back to Virginia.

Planning for this pregnancy, we knew that I would not get paid for the entirety of my maternity leave. My sick days accrue; if I work a month without taking a sick day, I earn a day of sick time. I had proudly saved twenty sick days which meant I would get two pay checks during my six-week maternity leave. After my sister passed in September of 2019, I used three weeks of my sick time, grieving her loss. On top of being pregnant and losing my sister, I was definitely stressed about the amount of unpaid leave I would have to take. Fortunately, I was able to borrow a weeks worth of sick time from myself so we would receive at least one paycheck during my six-week, maternity leave.

I had one sick day left to use when I got a phone call from a friend and fellow teacher that we were going to start teaching, virtually. Could I also work virtually (make money) while still on maternity leave? I was able to convince my OB that I could, “return” to work as long as work meant teaching from my couch. I fed Wells, Millie watched Mickey Mouse Club House, and I was posting music assignments at the same damn time. The pandemic allowed me to stay home for 21 weeks without a single, unpaid day.

As if new mothers aren’t paranoid enough, add a global pandemic to the mix. Thankfully, Chris’ company assigned his department to work from home so we weren’t getting germs from his job. Groceries were bought through delivery services and bags were sanitized at the door. Once Wells gained back his birth weight and was no longer jaundiced, we didn’t take him to another pediatric appointment until he was six months old. I should have gone to my six week OB appointment – I didn’t. I had a terrible, terrible pain in my right nipple from a latch issue – I didn’t receive outside help. My cousin unexpectedly passed away and we didn’t attend her funeral. I wasn’t comfortable breaking our “bubble”, so we stayed in.

Chris working from home turned out to be a blessing. He was able to hold Wells during his lunch hour and help change diapers between meetings. Wells definitely got more time with daddy due to the pandemic. I had planned on spending quality time watching Cubs baseball during my maternity leave, but the season was postponed and there was no baseball to be watched. We used this time at home to potty train Millie. She didn’t like feeling poop in her diaper so she would take the diaper off and the poo would get everywhere – it was time. We stripped her naked, packed away the diapers, gave her tons to drink throughout the day and constantly encouraged her to sit on the potty. We rewarded her, even if she sat on the toilet just to toot. We bought her cute undies with Frozen characters on them. We experienced more victories than accidents, but there were many accidents, especially when we would play outside. Within the month, she was completely potty trained.

The week before Wells was born, our realtor called wanting to show us a house that checked every box on our “wish list”. We dropped Millie off at my dads and I waddled through the open house. It was in a neighborhood with better schools, gave us a thousand more square feet, and had a fenced in backyard. Also, homes in our neighborhood were selling quickly at above asking price. The market was right, the house was perfect, but I was doubting how the timeline would work for us. The same day Wells was born, our offer on the house was accepted.

The worst part of selling our home during the pandemic was having to leave the house during showings; there was no where to go because everything was closed so we would load both kids in the Jeep and drive around, praying that no one entering our home was COVID positive. I would sit my postpartum butt between the two car seats and read to the kids while we ordered French fries through the Burger King drive through. The house inspectors and appraisers were weeks behind because of the shutdown. The contractors that installed our new floors had to break for two weeks because they had been in close contact with COVID-19.

All of our activity memberships expired; COSI, Franklin Park Conservatory, the Zoo. Zumbini went virtual and we tried classes through Zoom but Millie lost interest. She was getting stir crazy staying home; heck, I was too, so we would do at least one activity together everyday. It was nice to spend some one-on-one time with her because well, Wells. She loved when I would ask her to wash the dishes in the sink or when I’d let her scrub her toys. We made multi-colored foam in her water table. I taped shapes on the floor for her to organize her blocks. She loved to finger paint. We colored eggs for Easter. We became quite the bakers; she loved watching the baking competition shows and trying new recipes. We jumped in puddles on rainy afternoons and watched for, “sworms”. We would adventure in our yard where she found some fallen pine cones which she called, “coconuts”. If we were blessed with good weather, Chris would take Millie to the park across the street on his lunch break; until yellow caution tape was wrapped around the slides and the playground was off limits to promote social distancing.

The holidays were different, to say the least. We celebrated Palm Sunday by fanning around artificial leaf decorations left over from Millie’s second birthday and blowing bubbles in the back yard. Thankfully, I bought Easter gifts early because most stores were shut down. Church was virtual and we watched Easter service from my phone. Maw surprised us by decorating our tree in the front yard with eggs shaped like rabbits and ducks. She didn’t come in because she knew she’d want to hold the kids and she just couldn’t. (She had been in and out of the hospital after our cousin’s liver transplant and it just wasn’t safe to be around each other.) There was no Fourth of July parade and although we heard fireworks all through the night, we could not see any.

In November, Millie turned three and our governor had given clear instructions that no more than 10 people were allowed to gather together. Realizing I couldn’t throw Mill the birthday that I wanted for her, made me empathetic towards those who had to cancel their events due to the pandemic; weddings, trips, graduation parties, etc. It broke my heart to tell family members and friends that they could not come over to celebrate with us. So on Millie’s third birthday, my parents and the in-laws came over to celebrate and we FaceTimed others while she blew out her candles.

One very ordinary evening in December, Chris had a sore throat. Neither of us thought anything of it until he had chills throughout the night. He called our family doctor who then scheduled him to be tested for COVID. By the time of his test, he felt like he had been hit by a truck; even sitting was painful. Chris received a positive covid test and two days later, Wells and I had symptoms; body aches, fatigue, and a fever to follow. Wells slept the worst he ever had in his life. I could tell by his cry that he was in pain. Following suite, within the next two days, my grandmother who watches the kids during the week was symptomatic. Her and I both lost our taste and smell. Covid had infested our family.

Five days after Chris tested positive, Mill still had no signs of the virus. We were so impressed with her immune system! We must not have knocked on wood quick enough because without warning, my energetic fire ball was melting into the couch. Millie was lethargic and had a fever of 100.3. We called the pediatrician and she told us to give her children’s Tylenol and monitor her symptoms. We put her in the bath tub and encouraged fluids. Once the medicine was in her system, she was back to her normal self. You could tell when the medicine would start to wear off – she’d slow down, get rosy cheeks, and her eyes would gloss over. She took her medicine while I sang, “Just a spoon full of sugar helps the medicine go down.” Sweet girl didn’t fight it at all. Her symptoms lasted 48 hours.

The virus did not keep us from:

  • Worshipping the Lord
  • Celebrating birthdays
  • Going to VA
  • Playing in the snow (Millie makes the best snow angels)
  • Moving my grandma into a new condo
  • Making Christmas cookies and giving them to our neighbors
  • Sending Valentine’s cards
  • Going to the zoo
  • Dedicating Wells

Not everyone had our same comfort level for socialization during the pandemic. We were not fearful of a virus with a 98% survival rate, we had faith in our immune systems, and we agreed with Pastor Doyle when he spoke about togetherness. Unfortunately, many family members missed out on important birthdays, holidays, and other once in a lifetime events because of their own anxieties about safety. The thought process was, “I want to be around for the holidays that they’ll remember.” but no one can guarantee tomorrow. [Millie (3) and Wells (1) just because you might not remember this year, doesn’t make your experiences any less valuable. I’m blogging so that if one day you don’t remember, my words may be enough.]

“If you’re a pandemic baby and you’ve been in quarantine your whole life, you get overstimulated by everything ’cause all the strangers that you see have masks on, and you’ve never really had a playdate in your life.”

I worry about how much this year has affected our children. One year out of my thirty is nothing, but one year to my three year old? That’s a third of her life. Wells? His entire life. Children aren’t as resilient as we like to think, you know? Why do so many adults find themselves in therapy – childhood trauma. We have absolutely no idea the ramifications of living this closed off, pandemic life. Millie was supposed to start dance this year and Wells doesn’t know what it’s like to be around other children. I’m heartbroken and concerned for our children, this generation now labeled as, “Gen C”.

Crazy things about COVID:

  • This started during an election year.
  • People hoarded toilet paper and sold it for obscene amounts of money on the internet.
  • Your Great, Great Uncle Bobby, who is bedridden in a nursing home (suffers from strokes) survived the virus!
  • There were directional arrows on the floors of stores and MawMaw became the aisle police. Although, she told me if I needed to go down an aisle with an arrow facing the opposite direction, to just walk backwards and act like I “forgot” something.
  • Millie was told she had to wear a mask upon entering the Disney store.
  • People were also concerned about murder hornets (I’m still not positive about the murders – were they murdering bees? People?)
  • The sports stadiums were empty (they broadcasted with fake audience cheers, it was bizarre) but some stadiums offered fans to buy cardboard cutouts of themselves to place in the seats. Gam got Millie a cutout for the Shoe so she was “at” the Buckeye games.

I thought I’d finish this blog post months ago (I began writing in August of 2020) but the pandemic trudged on. Ohio is now in a state of “purple” meaning we are worse off when we were in the “red” during our initial shutdown (the colors are arbitrary). Children are back in school full time, sporting events are being held with spectators, vaccines are being administered through drive-thrus – I don’t know what’s next for parenting in the pandemic but I’m glad this blog can be updated because I’m sure it’s not over.